[Deaunna]

So in my last note I wrote about how I no longer wanted to be in a relationship but felt stuck. So just recently I started a job I have been wanting for a long time and it pays nearly $16/hr. Of course I expected for my "boyfriend" to be happy for me because he started a jib he has been wanting for a while. So I applied to this job over a yeah ago and it is in the automotive industry so you can imagine how long the process took and how happy I am with the benefits. I decided to talk to him about it and he had an attitude towards me. Then after talking for a while I discovered that the shift I decided to take is the same shift he's going to be working at his new job (identical schedules).
He's not too happy about that. When I talk he doesn't want to listen but he thinks I'm supposed to pay his phone bill for him becausr his phoneI is off and he's at a new job. So I told him no because every since I started at my new job I cant even talk to him. Things are getting worse then they've ever been between us. I get attitude for asking wht he did today because apparently I should already know what he's doing. I'm not insinuating anything, I just simply ask a question. When he did decide to talk to me he asked me to put his phone on charge so he could use it later and I did the dumbest thing of trying to joke with himI as he lashed out at me like full nlown yelling at me. I told him it was a joke and he told me that's why he doesn't like me. This is the first time he has told me that. I honestly feel like he's going to leave when he starts to make his own money. He has never treated me this way it all started when I started my new job. I don't care if he leaves I will gladly encourage him but I feel like I'm being used. I feel like I'm his stepping stool to success. I wish I could say I believe that he's going to help me with bills and rent but I don't think he will.
For a super long time I have felt like he looks at me like I'm useless. I do more than he does and I feel like he's here because he's comfortable and that's one of the many reasons I don't want to be with him.
I can't lie I love him and it's going to be hard seeing him with other people but I know I deserve better. I feel worn out we have been having so many problems I just feel like I'm ready to free myself from this situation and llok for a husband or lrt him find me however it happens. I'm wasting time with him because I would never marry him (not that he's ever ask me). I want a best friend for a husband. I just want to be happy! Ooinions and comments are welcome I am really open to other peoples point of view.

[HippoMey]

Hello there,

Sorry to hear the situation you are in. But I think you are making the right decision to leave him since he doesn't sound very nice to you. He shouldn't be too short tempered especially since you have just found happiness in your job. If anything he should be very happy for you and share that happiness with you.

Also if you don't feel comfortable around him, and can't even joke around him, then I'm sure the atmosphere wouldn't be very cheerful between you two. Just take some time off seeing him, think about what you really want and need. You will be fine. hugs

Deaunna, sounds like you are living together. Two people on the same schedule then coming home the same time does not offer alone time that the other needs. If you feel you can do better than do so. I think you already know the answers you are just looking for the courage to do it and the confirmation of what you feel is real and okay. You will be okay with any decision you make as long as it is right for you. tc