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#1
Jan 13, 2016, 01:53 AM
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My sister is pressuring me to move out in six months she says are house is toxic and I need to move out and get my life together. I can not leave i dont know a life outside of suicide i don't know how to live sure i have dreams and things but am i capable no at least not now.i do wish i didn't live so near a hospital it triggers me to seek it out by hurting myself but im also scared of leaving my mom that she'll hate me anyway tried contacting my case manager but she never called mer back so i still don't know what to do about my sister and as far as shes concerned im moving out in six months and ive tried to tell her i don't want to live moving out wont help but she has a solution for everything she wants me to also fufill my dream as a play therapist not going to happen tried school i always fail.my home life is toxic but it wont be soon cause everyone is leaving soon anyway.
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#2
Jan 13, 2016, 05:20 AM
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What is meant about everyone is leaving soon, anyways?
How old are you and your sister? What does your mom have to say? Isn't that her role, not your sisters?? Sent from my LGMS323 using Tapatalk |
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Jan 13, 2016, 04:51 PM
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The sister is probably right, need to get away from toxics if possible. Sent from my SM-N910F using Tapatalk |
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Jan 13, 2016, 04:54 PM
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#5
Jan 13, 2016, 05:32 PM
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My sister not demanding she is just trying to get me to leave .my mom is the type of person who doesn't like to let go she thinks all her kids are leaving her so anywhere to far out she has opposition.
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Jan 13, 2016, 05:40 PM
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I think your sister wants to save you, get you away from mother so you can make a life of your own.
I can understand how scary that is. Sent from my SM-N910F using Tapatalk |
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#7
Jan 13, 2016, 05:43 PM
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Well, that's just what kids do. Grow up and become independent and get their own place, a job, some start families after a while. Not every parent adapts well to empty nesting, some do. Sounds like yours isn't. Which explains why your sister is pushing you to take that step.
Moving out can be exciting. Hope you can find a way. Sent from my LGMS323 using Tapatalk |
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Jan 14, 2016, 03:22 AM
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passionfruit3, how old are you and how old is your sister?
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Jan 14, 2016, 12:37 PM
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Im 23 and she is 24
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#10
Jan 14, 2016, 01:07 PM
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She is older than you, why is she not moving out?
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Jan 14, 2016, 01:10 PM
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Alright now I'm confused. And this brings me back to my original point of view. The sister is still at home??
Sibling rivalry also comes to mind. That was my original thought. Sibling rivalry on top of it all. Sent from my LGMS323 using Tapatalk |
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#12
Jan 14, 2016, 01:34 PM
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She is out she's in college lives elsewhere I live at home with the rest of my.siblings she wants me to go to college and move out cause of fighting at home. But I can't live up to that expectation
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Jan 14, 2016, 01:35 PM
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Jan 14, 2016, 01:41 PM
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Are parents have raised us to believe if you don't have a college education your nothing she follows that same belief plus I'm disabled she believes I need to do something with my life I guess she thinks that is college cause I told her had dreams of being a play therapist thing is tried college didn't get through the first.couple days I ended up in the hospital the first time second time I dropped out
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Jan 14, 2016, 01:59 PM
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That's unfair to state there's nothingness without a degree. I've known a great deal of people in my lifetime that had more intellectual abilities than some of those that I've known with degrees. I've known some that went late, workforce experience was necessary to a more well rounded comprehension of courses. Or they didn't find their niche until they gained confidence within themselves as a result of what working brings to self value. There are some programs in the states (unsure if you are stateside or in a different country) that offer career training for those with disabilities. There's options. If gaining independence is crucial for your emotional well being, perhaps your therapist or case worker can guide you. Sent from my LGMS323 using Tapatalk |
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Jan 14, 2016, 06:54 PM
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You can attempt trade school or even just start working. Don't necessarily go to college. I understand your sister wants you to have s better life
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Jan 15, 2016, 04:23 AM
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Jan 15, 2016, 05:48 AM
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Are you using any vocational rehabilitation services that could help you? Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Jan 15, 2016, 05:52 AM
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Mother says I can't work cause I'm disabled and they Will take away health insurance if I work
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Jan 15, 2016, 06:06 AM
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What?! I'd check in with your disability office to clarify. That's what vocational rehab is all about.
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Jan 15, 2016, 06:09 AM
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What do you mean by that statement that is what vocational rehab is all about
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#22
Jan 15, 2016, 06:13 AM
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Placing you into employment that accommodates your limitations but it's to help you supplement or gain independence.
My stepmom was always telling my half sister that she too was too disabled to work or even to have a baby. Well, she does work, now lives on her own. Splitting rent with a group of friends and is about six weeks to giving birth. Living with her mom was a toxic mixture. Sent from my LGMS323 using Tapatalk |
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Jan 15, 2016, 06:18 AM
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Since she mentioned you'd lose health insurance, I'm presuming it's state funded? Which qualifies mainly, just you. Is there a complete disability determination and monthly check? I'd find out, because even if you cannot work yoy might qualify to live in an assisted living housing with a minimal amount of rent and you'd qualify for assistance in order to at least gain your independence.
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Jan 15, 2016, 11:32 AM
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You can work just maybe not full time. I know people on disability and they work part time Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Jan 15, 2016, 11:34 AM
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What state are you in? I deal with vocational rehab for my students all the time. I can look up resources in your state
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