Not sure if this should go in the grief / loss section or here. I am missing my ex best friend right now. But I don't think I should try to contact him. When I have, in the past, twice tried to call him, he did not pick up or return my call. The very last time I spoke to him, I was very depressed, and when he did answer, he yelled at me. I think it's better this way for me. He's my ex boyfriend. That's how I know him. We became friends after I broke up with him. But he has hurt me, over the course of our relationship and friendship (2 years of relationship, 5 years of friendship!), so many times. I think I'm just having a moment of missing him. We were pretty close. So I'm sure this is natural. It seems like he's moved on though. And I have him blocked on Facebook, and I don't intend to unblock him.

I say trust your instincts. It's perfectly normal to miss someone who's been a huge part of your life, even when they've also hurt you. But it's also good to protect yourself by not going back there again when you feel it wouldn't be good for you. I'm glad you shared here and hope it helps with dealing with your feelings

Only you can make this judgement. Sometimes limited contact works. That is what I do with my parent(s) My Mother just died, but I really had contact on my terms , with her. Sometimes I say no.