[Yorinee00]

So I'm in my second year of university. It's a pretty good university with lots of resources and oppurtunities, but I feel like there isn't anyone I can connect to.

Like, sincerely connect to.

I started off freshman year with a small circle of friends who I THOUGHT would great friends I could keep for the rest of my life.
I tend to treat my friends really well -I am really careful and considerate when it comes to people's feelings and thoughts. If they don't like something or don't want to do something (like trivial things), I am usually willing to get the short end in things. Even if they do hurt my feelings, I just let it pass. Sometimes people make mistakes, so it's fine.

However, now I think they are not taking me seriously. Like they don't respect me. We all made plans to watch a movie and bought tickets and everything. I showed up at the movie theater that day and they all cancelled last minute saying that they're too busy, or a "sudden" meeting came up.... so I ended up watching it alone. lol (all 4 of the girls too...lol)

And now they are really distancing themselves away from me. All they want to do is party and try to meet guys and stuff. They really try to get me to party, but I personally don't enjoy those things so I always refuse.
One of them always tried to persuade me to go to retreats with her, and since I really don't like it (waste of time in my opinion) I again refuse politely. She got super pissed and snapped at me saying, "You're making me sound so stupid. I feel so stupid for trying to persuade you. Just tell me that you think it's stupid to my face if you don't want to go." (0_0) like what in the world!

Just things like this happen every now and then. And when I group chat them to try to arrange a nice activity (ice skating or shopping -healthy activities) or have dinner together, they all just type back that they're lazy and that we should just do one activity instead of doing 2-3 activities in a day....... -_-

I feel like they're just not appreciating my efforts of being a good friend.

Now I'm just starting to give up, and I haven't been meeting them at all unless they text me saying that they want to meet me (which sounds super fake now).
lol and it doesn't help that I'm a commuter too. So I don't really have any other friends besides these "friends". I did try to go to social events at my school, but it's hard to make lasting relationships since everyone already has their own niche.

I guess....the only thing that is occupying my time right now are academics (i want to get into dental school after I graduate from undergrad) and my parents. lol........

No boyfriend or friends. Literally the only person I talk to is my mom. LOL

That's my life.

Finding a true friend with whom you truly connect is not an easy thing. Sometimes the only true friend you will find around is yourself. But if your "friends" still ask you to do some acceptable activities to you with them, why not? Enjoy your time, while focusing on your study.

[Yorinee00]

Originally Posted by Nickname

Finding a true friend with whom you truly connect is not an easy thing. Sometimes the only true friend you will find around is yourself. But if your "friends" still ask you to do some acceptable activities to you with them, why not? Enjoy your time, while focusing on your study.

lol, the only time they ask to see me is when they're somehow alone. It's so insincere.
I don't know why, but it seems like I had a lot of these types of friends growing up. I'm just introverted and really unlike those of my age. oh life lol
You're right though, I am my best friend. But it gets lonely sometimes when I'm just hanging around with myself all the time. LOL

[eskielover]

Your studies & your plans for dental school should be your priority....like a job IMO & nothing should get in the way of that....there are always time to make real lasting friends after you are finished with school or in dental school where you have lots in common with those in school with you.

I agree though, if they plan something that sounds good & that you are interested in....go ahead & go along but basically keep these girls at a distance since it's obvious that they want to party rather than have good wholesome activities to enjoy.

I was a commuter at the university I went to but then most were. I never had a group of friends...I was mostly a loner & really didn't need friends to make my life meaningful....I focused on my computer degree which took up most of my time though stupidly I ended up finding a guy & getting married....the biggest mistake of my life....but that's another whole novel. Best to focus on your goals....you will find friends that fit into that life as you get farther along your path in the university.....don't make yourself miserable over not fitting into the lifestyle that those girls want to make out of their university experience.....it's for EDUCATION!!!! not for partying.