[Artchic528]

I'm on this dating site and am talking to this first guy, when this second guy sends me a message. I answer it because his picture is pretty good looking. We start talking about normal things, but he's kind of quiet and reserved. Then I say, "What about me would you like to know?" and suddenly I'm answering his questions about sexual things. Positions, sizes, and whatnot. Well, it gets a bit odd here, as I very much realize I talked to this guy before about the same things, but he stopped responding to me for some reason. Is this normal for a dating site?

Just curious.

I personally wouldn't ngage in those kinds of discussions with strangers because just the fact that they think they can even ask such questions would be a huge red flag that I would not be at all interested in getting to know them. Is that kind of discussion with strangers okay to you?

[ScarletEmpress]

I agree with lolagrace. The guy is probably just looking for entertainment and not a relationship. If he's this disrespectful online imagine how bad he would be in person.

[Artchic528]

Whenever I try and ask him about himself, he gives a brief answer, but always reverts the convo back to talk of sex. I outright asked him if he was looking for a fling and he said no, and then I asked him if he was looking for a long term or short term relationship and he said long.

I'm almost tempted to start discussion about marriage just to scare the guy off. He didn't even give me a real number, but a number for google voice when I asked. He's obviously got some sort of plan worked out.

Oh well, at least I have the first guy to talk to. I'm going to ask for HIS number and hopefully it won't be google voice.

[TishaBuv]

Don't even waste your time talking to the guy who asked about the sex positions, he sounds like a creep.

I have a former girlfriend who would actually hook up with strange guys she met on these dating sites. They didn't even take her out first. They told her they didn't feel like driving across town to go to her house, instead told her to drive to see them,, and she would!

Women with super low self-esteem have shown these men that they can get away with acting like creeps.

Don't play into it. Be the respectable, nice one they actually take on a date.

[divine1966]

Block him immediately

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[IrisBloom]

Yes, there are lots and lots of guys on the internet hoping to get women to help them get their jollies. There are women that do this too. If it is a reputable dating site, or website, maybe you can report them to Admin. I am a member of a site that is not really a dating site, but is used as one, which is ok with admin, but it's not the sole purpose. They do delete members right and left for joining just to get sex talk or action.

As you get more experienced with meeting people online you will pick up signals and learn how to deal with these things.

[Elektra_]

hi. giving my experiencie in those "dating" sites... stay away. ur setting urself up to get hurt. tc

[A Red Panda]

Unless you are planning on messing with this to f$&@ with him as he is clearly a creep.... There is nothing honest or serious about him. Don't waste your time. Don't answer sexual questions - anyone asking something so very personal has zero interest in a relationship. Since he said he is looking for long term that's an even bigger signal that he is bs-ing you - someone looking for long term would never be that invasive. He is also avoiding your questions by giving brief answers which makes it harder for him to get caught in any lie.

[mf1438]

Yeah, it's normal. People get on dating sites to get sex. Talking about sex is the prelude to sex. If you feel uncomfortable talking about sex then let him know and draw the boundaries that make you feel OK. If he likes you enough, he will respect your boundaries and continue the conversation. If not, then he wasn't the one for you.

[unaluna]

Plus i bet thats not his real picture. They are just doing it to get off.

Yes. Dating includes sex. Sometimes in the beginning and sometimes not. lol

[eskielover]

Dating doesn't have to include sex. Many still have the values that sex is only for marriage. If that's your values don't lower your standards & don't think that all of society has changed their moral standards because some have.

Set your standards whether through a dating site or any other means you have of meeting people you might be interested in dating & keep your boundaries solid.

[divine1966]

Dating includes sex but but before two people even met unless you are dealing with a creep. Oh for sure its not his picture and you are never going to meet him. That's not his intent

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[Trippin2.0]

That does not sound like a dating discussion, sounds like a hook up discussion.


I'm very sure there's a huge difference.


PS. Eeew, just eeew, what an absolute creep! I'm sure i would vomit in my mouth a lil if a stranger broached those topics with me.


Just no, a resounding hell no

[lizardlady]

Artchic, I'm an old fart who has no interest in visiting dating sites. I was thinking in terms of what would happen if two people met face-to-face for the first time and one of them started asking questions about sexual preferences. Personally, I'd leave smoke as a I ran away from the person. Like I said, I'm an old fart, but that strikes me as way too much, way too soon.

[TishaBuv]

What does your profile say? Could you have said something in it that made him think you wanted a hook up?

[Artchic528]

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

What does your profile say? Could you have said something in it that made him think you wanted a hook up?

Not in the least. I didn't leave anything to suggest I wanted a quick hookup.

Originally Posted by Artchic528

Whenever I try and ask him about himself, he gives a brief answer, but always reverts the convo back to talk of sex. I outright asked him if he was looking for a fling and he said no, and then I asked him if he was looking for a long term or short term relationship and he said long.

I'm almost tempted to start discussion about marriage just to scare the guy off. He didn't even give me a real number, but a number for google voice when I asked. He's obviously got some sort of plan worked out.

Oh well, at least I have the first guy to talk to. I'm going to ask for HIS number and hopefully it won't be google voice.

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He's probably a player, has a g.f, or is married. And most of all, it's very obvious that he only wants to have sex with you. Ignore him. Block him. There is no need to answer his questions. He is a creep like others have said already.

If you continue to talk to him, he'll probably lie to you and dump you after he he sleeps with you. He is not looking for a real relationship. He was testing your boundaries for sure. If a guy starts asking you to many personal questions like that at first, run! About telling him that you'd like to get married, don't sink to his level. He might even play along if he thinks it'll get him laid.

[unaluna]

Some guys are just looking for free phone / text sex. If you dont realize whats going on on their "end", thats probably more fun for them

[barbella]

Sounds fairly common but, for me, not OK. If you're not OK with it, just block him and be done with it. I think unaluna's right in their assessment of the situation.

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by barbella

Sounds fairly common but, for me, not OK. If you're not OK with it, just block him and be done with it. I think unaluna's right in their assessment of the situation.

Yeah you can tell cuz they usually sound kinda urgent!! Its a pretty short learning curve!