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Old Mar 11, 2016, 09:32 AM
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I am almost 50 and I have never had more stress and problems in my life than I do now. There is so much I do not know where to start.

I have 4 children and 2 granddaughters. I've been with my partner for 20 yrs.

My son is barely making it by with his gf and baby. I have twin 16yr old girls that I don't have any major issues.

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Well there was no question.

My granddaughter may have issues herself. She is not a typical 2 yr old and I've dealt with a lot of toddlers. She will not listen at all.
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She will walk over to a lamp and knock it down, 20 times a day with multi time outs. Or I will have laundry folded on the table and she will run up to the table and knock it off on the floor.

As much as I love and adore my granddaughter I'm not sure how I can take this any longer. We all take shifts looking after her because no one has the patience to be with her for hrs at a time. And we do understand she has had no discipline or guidance and has probably seen a lot of fighting but I just don't know how to get her to listen.

And then there is my partner...
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Old Mar 11, 2016, 09:50 AM
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And physically I'm feeling the stress, like I said above it hurts to breath. My energy has crashed, I'm in a depression. I'm also angry at my daughter but then I feel so sorry for her and I know she loves her daughter. I can't concentrate at my job.

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Old Mar 11, 2016, 03:38 PM
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I am so very sorry. It sounds so tough. Are there any resources like state agency of sorts to help you with this child? And can you get away from your partner? I am so sorry. I don't know how to help. I am here for you

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Old Mar 12, 2016, 12:17 AM
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Oceans of time, Get to a Co-Dependent meeting. read the book CoDependent No more by Melody Beattie. Get into counseling immediately, your health depends upon it. You are not responsible for your daughter or your grand daughters life. you do not have to put up with it, the grand daughter. You do not have to stay with your partner when he is unfaithful to you and makes you feel rejected cause he is bisexual. You deserve better than this. you do not have to live your life for others to use you as a door mat and step all over you. if you can leave your partner do so. and put a hold on your granddaughter being with you. you need to take care of yourself by getting rid of the stress in your life which is them for the time being. You need to live in a place where you feel safe, physically, emotionally, mentally. And the sooner the better. you don't need to stroke out over of all this. you have the power to change what is right for you not for others. i will pray for you to have the strength and courage to move on. tc and blessings
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