[Lee hye ri]

I have a friend for more than ten yrs.. We go school,college together ,everywhere together ...but i feel like i cant reach through her ... She didnt even tell me that her mom died when iam her closest friend .. Like she says ... If i so do anything and apologize ... She tells me "i dont dare to be angry with you" and i feel like i scare her ... We both got the same score in high school ... But the school made an error and made her the first and i the second and gave her a higher prize ... She didnt even tell me to have it ... Just as joke you know ,or you should have been the first ... Nevermind ... I always have hated medical school and didnt want to enter it ... But ended up entering it with her ...not even once told me why did u enter?or how about u transfer ... Nothing ...she wanted me to enter and i entered ..then there is no problem with her ... I get lower grades than her ... But i am always the one who simplify the curriculum to her ... No problem ... But she doesnt offer help to me as much as i offer ... She always say i didnt study well and then on the score .. She hit the jackpot and i get lower grades even though iam the one who always calms her after each exam ... Iam usually if not always the one who initiates the conversation or the call ....i dont know why i feel like this but iam not comfortable ... She is a perfect person ...may be iam the problem ... Please tell me ... Iam very confused

[ComfortablyNumb5]

Well I'll give this a shot since no one else replied. It seems like there's a bit of competitiveness there. Being concerned about each others grades is a bit silly to me. And she didn't even tell you her mom died? Does she really look at you as a close friend like you see her? She's not helping you at all with school work while you're helping her. I would really take a look at the relationship and her intentions and question the fairness here. You do anything she wants. Maybe she knows it and she's taking advantage of you. Just doesn't seem to me that she sees you as you see her. Why did you enter medical school when you didn't want to? That's a pretty big commitment! Just a random question lol.

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[Lee hye ri]

Originally Posted by RxQueen875

Well I'll give this a shot since no one else replied. It seems like there's a bit of competitiveness there. Being concerned about each others grades is a bit silly to me. And she didn't even tell you her mom died? Does she really look at you as a close friend like you see her? She's not helping you at all with school work while you're helping her. I would really take a look at the relationship and her intentions and question the fairness here. You do anything she wants. Maybe she knows it and she's taking advantage of you. Just doesn't seem to me that she sees you as you see her. Why did you enter medical school when you didn't want to? That's a pretty big commitment! Just a random question lol.

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I didnt enter the school for her ... I dont know ... But i wasnt mature enough to know what i wanted then ... But now i started to accept the reality and go on .. I decided to take my path ... Since she know her path ... If she want my help i will give it ... She lives with her stepmom even before i knew her ... But she could at least told me ... There is no harm if she told me ... But its okay ... I kind of became emotionally distant from and she kinda feel it ... But she doesnt ask me seriously

[s4ndm4n2006]

Originally Posted by Lee hye ri

I have a friend for more than ten yrs.. We go school,college together ,everywhere together ...but i feel like i cant reach through her ... She didnt even tell me that her mom died when iam her closest friend .. Like she says ... If i so do anything and apologize ... She tells me "i dont dare to be angry with you" and i feel like i scare her ... We both got the same score in high school ... But the school made an error and made her the first and i the second and gave her a higher prize ... She didnt even tell me to have it ... Just as joke you know ,or you should have been the first ... Nevermind ... I always have hated medical school and didnt want to enter it ... But ended up entering it with her ...not even once told me why did u enter?or how about u transfer ... Nothing ...she wanted me to enter and i entered ..then there is no problem with her ... I get lower grades than her ... But i am always the one who simplify the curriculum to her ... No problem ... But she doesnt offer help to me as much as i offer ... She always say i didnt study well and then on the score .. She hit the jackpot and i get lower grades even though iam the one who always calms her after each exam ... Iam usually if not always the one who initiates the conversation or the call ....i dont know why i feel like this but iam not comfortable ... She is a perfect person ...may be iam the problem ... Please tell me ... Iam very confused

My first thought is that you seem to be doing things based on what she wants/thinks not what your desire is. In all came to culmination in the line where you said you didn't want to enter medical school, hate it and then implied you only entered because she wanted you to. That is the root of your problem here. You're doing things based on someone else and then expect accolades for going along with them, expect them to make provision for you and lift you up.

Stop being friends with someone that clearly you are with to try and be like when you feel so inferior to them. You are a different person, find your own desires and direction in life, find what you excel at and enjoy and quit expecting that going along with others will ever make you happy, it won't.

As I've said time and time again here and to friends and family: "be independent first above all things." Be your own person and you'll then find better (or more appropriate) people to be with.

[Lee hye ri]

First .. Thx for replying ... I appreciate it ... Second .. I will try that .. I feel i should ... It took me a while to realize .. But i will begin .thank you