[Angel_baby]

i'v been with this guy for a while, not that long but long enough you know, but he's always late, i don't think he's ever been on time, like today, he was like "i'll be there one no later" but now it's 3:40 and he's still sleeping cuz i called his house and his brother said he was and that he couldn't wake him up, and he does this all the time, waht should i do,i don't wanna leave him cuz i love him, but i don't know if i can take this much longer, please give me some advice
~Rachel

[Zenobia]

If you know his habit you can work around it. One trick is to tell him a time that is 1 1/2 hours earlier then it needs to be. Another is if you know that he is going to be out late or working the night before and he says something like 1:30 no later, in a kind tone tell him that it would be better if you got together later so that he can get more sleep then add the hour and a half to that in your own planning. It sucks that some people are so inconsiderate but it is a fact that some people have no concept of time management it just doesn't seem to enter their heads. Trying to change them is next to impossible and will cause more grief then it is worth. My husband seems to attract these slow to get ready friends. Over the years we have learned just to relax and go with the flow. We have also learned not to rush to get to their houses on time because that only means a longer wait.
I wish you luck,
Zen<font color=blue>

"Knowledge comes, but wisdom lingers."--Tennyson

[Angel_baby]

your right, but it's really agraviting, i'm 16 and i just got a job, and we was gonna pick me up from work, then we were gonna go out and he never showed up, he said his dad said he couldn't go, but he's 19, he shouldn't need his dads permission,am i right? i just needed to get this off my chest, thanks

[Zenobia]

I agree, that is just plain rude since he didn't call you when he knew he couldn't pick you up. I can't give you any advice on this because I spent 12 years fighting over my husband not calling me. It has been a long hard struggle.
Take care,
Zen<font color=blue>

"Knowledge comes, but wisdom lingers."--Tennyson

[Angel_baby]

thats ok, it's just really annoying. espically when he makes excusses, i tell him all the time that he needs to grow up and act responsibe lol, sometimes i don't even think he hears me