Called the cops on my husband

Two policemen just left my house at 3:30 am. Why? Because I called 911 after I kicked my husband out of the house and he started sending messages indicating that he was going to kill himself. He has made threats before, so at first I thought it was just another manipulation to play on my emotions. I'm not sure what seemed different about tonight, but I didn't want to chance that he might actually do it...so I made the call. And now I am getting worried.

He had another one of his episodes. He started yelling at me, calling me names, saying he knew I was cheating on him with this guy I have never even talked to. He even said he saw me in his vehicle. My husband is a recovering drug addict. The last time that he got high, he was found over the ditch and had to be revived at the hospital. Knowing that he needed help, he checked himself into a detox center. He claims that he has not gotten high since then. A part of me wishes it was the drugs, because another part of me is afraid that he has a mental disorder. Before I knew he was getting high, I was really concerned that he was schizophrenic. He would accuse me of sleeping with different guys and being in places that I wasn't. One time he even showed me "myself" in a porn video (the girl looked nothing like me). Once I figured out it was drugs and he got himself clean, things started going better. But the last week has been horrible. He'll write me a sweet note to put in my lunch, but then when I get home he wants nothing to do with me...or worse, he's accusing me of something else. You can tell that his mind is always racing and that he's always in mental anguish. I don't know if he's getting high again or if he has some sort of extreme paranoid personality. I couldn't take it, so I told him to leave. Now I'm worried he's going to hurt himself. If he's okay, he's going to be furious when he finds out I called the police. I'm just so tired. I don't know what to do. His family has pretty much given up on him. I feel like I'm the only person he has, but I can't stand the emotional and verbal abuse that I have to take. I don't even know if he's okay right now...

You shouldn't have to endure such abuse. Maybe the police can see that he gets the help he needs. Sounds like he has mental health issues.

I think you did the right thing. I hope he gets help and you figure out if it is MI or drugs. Please stay safe.

He's okay and is begging to come home. He has agreed to seek professional help. I've been trying to make him an appointment, but the issue is our insurance. The wait list for medicaid patients is over a month long. That's too long...he needs help now. I just don't know what to do.

Quitting drugs is only the first step. It takes over a year of constant therapy to get better. It also matter what age he started using drugs cause they become stuck at that age until they stop using. If indeed he also has an mental illness he still needs treatment.
You did the right thing whether or not he was using he needed to know his behavior was not ok and you will hold him responsible and not enable his bad behavior.
For him there is AA, NA and therapy with someone who has background in chemical abuse. For you there's Al-Anon and therapy. The whole family needs help to deal with it. Best of luck.

You did the right thing by calling the police..imagine if he had killed himself and you didn't call...you would feel awful. You did all you could do. Really him using drugs is abusive to your relationship....I KNOW because I am living with someone who is also using drugs...They change and it DOES sound like he is using again. I hate to say this to you...and this is true for me...too...In order for us to be happy we have to separate from these men for good...until they are well.