[stracie]

Need advice how to deal with his paranoia and sudden mood swings

[Skeezyks]

Hello stracie: Well... obviously the Skeezyks doesn't know anything about what is going on with your partner... what it is that is causing his paranoia & sudden mood swings or how serious they are. In general, I would say that there may not be much you can do about them. He needs to take it upon himself to figure out what it is that is going on with him & what he can do about it. In other words, he needs to take responsibility for himself. If your partner cannot, or will not take responsibility for himself, there may not be much you can do to change him.

The important thing here may be for you to do what you must do to take care of yourself. This might include getting some therapy for yourself, joining a support group, or just making time to get out with friends & do things that help you to feel good about yourself. There is a danger in these types of situations that whatever it is that is going on with your partner may end up dragging you down as well. This benefits neither of you. Beyond that, knowing as little as I do with regard to your situation, this is about the most I believe I could suggest.

[Travelinglady]

Hi, stracie, and welcome to Psych Central! Has your partner been diagnosed?

I don't think paranoids can be talked out of their paranoia, although it's worth a try if it's not too much out of reality.

As the Skeezyks says, do look out for yourself. Don't let your partner abuse you, if that's happening. Try to see about therapy for you and ultimately for your partner. (A therapist can give you suggestions for dealing with your partner and be supportive of you.)

[Talthybius]

Do the right thing.

Or maybe, tell us what you need advice on. Because now all you say is that you need advice.

[healingme4me]

Learning emotional detachment came in useful with my exhusband.

The things that he concocted in his mind were rather tall tales. His moods were rather unpredictable. It certainly drove a wedge between us. The marriage wasn't sustainable, too much abuse because of the results of his delusions.