[kkfk]

My boyfriend of 11 years told me today that he wants to have sex with a 90 year old woman that has been our mutual friend for a couple of years. He is being kind of "pushy" about the subject and I'm very confused about the whole thing.
We (he and I), have not been having a lot of sex because I just had a major surgery that is causing me pain; and I tell him so.
This 90 yr. old woman lost her husband about two years ago.

I went to AZ to take care of my ex-husband that was dying of cancer for 2 months, then he passed away...my ex.

My boyfriend told me that he was going out with this woman (a lot), while I was away.

While my boyfriend and I are having sex.... He tells me that I need to bring the subject up of having 3-way sex with her.

This is so uncharacteristic of my boyfriend, so I'm befuddled and confused.

He's also masturbating almost every day.

I have NO idea how to handle this situation.

Any suggestions??

[divine1966]

How old is this man that he likes 90 year old in a romantic way? Overall if my mans offered we do threesomes I would be gone, no matter her age

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How do you feel about this situation, besides confused?

[kkfk]

He is 75. He's acting out sexually and I don't kn ow why.
That's what I figured everyone would say!

What a nightmare!

Originally Posted by divine1966

How old is this man that he likes 90 year old in a romantic way? Overall if my mans offered we do threesomes I would be gone, no matter her age

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[kkfk]

I've been living with this man for 11 years, and I'm shocked and disturbed by his behavior with this situation.
He has started masturbating a lot and wants sex all the time??

He's probably fantasizng about this woman while we are having sex.

I feel like I am not good enough in bed, although he tells me that I give him the best sex that he has ever had.

I guess I just need to tell him that this is not acceptable, to me, and go from there.
I never (EVER), thought I would have something like this come up with this man.
Wanting ME to talk to her about HIM wanting to have sex with her? NOT.

I don't want to ruin my relationship with this woman, or this man. He has been faithful, loyal and loving and now THIS.

Confused, Hurt, Sad,

Originally Posted by sophiesmom

How do you feel about this situation, besides confused?

[ComfortablyNumb5]

Yea this is a hard one. Maybe it's some sort of fetish of his? Different strokes for different folks I guess!

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Well, some couples are okay with more of an open relationship, that was the reason for my question.

You have some hard questions to ask yourself. You're actually off to a great beginning with that. Perhaps you are not so much confused as you are needing validation of your beliefs and that it's okay to draw lines in the sand.

It's always a good thing to be sure of yourself.

[Bill3]

Given these shocking changes in behavior, I wonder if he would consider seeing a neurologist.

[kkfk]

I told him that is NOT okay with me to do this kind of behaviour, but I'm still wondering why he is still acting out by wanting sex (all the time), and talking about sex, all the time.

I will talk to my psychiatrist about this when I see her, next month.
Maybe she can give me some good insight.

I 'never' EVER thought I would have theses types of issues with this man.
He seems deeply depreseed and it is "as if" he wants to have as much sex as he can before he dies. All he does is lay around, sleep, and jerk off.

Sad, sad situation.

Actually, I think I have reached a solution. I don't want to be in this relationship anymore. Maybe this is a way for him to push me away.

Originally Posted by sophiesmom

Well, some couples are okay with more of an open relationship, that was the reason for my question.

You have some hard questions to ask yourself. You're actually off to a great beginning with that. Perhaps you are not so much confused as you are needing validation of your beliefs and that it's okay to draw lines in the sand.

It's always a good thing to be sure of yourself.