Disturbed single woman

I have been thinking but I think I know why I am single and most likely will always be

1. I am a complicated person
2. I can change my mind a lot often time I think I want someone then I feel I don't so far in every relationship I had I got bored, needed excitement, felt trapped and left.
3. I can understand why someone wouldn't crush on me if you think about it what is the whole point of dating someone who changes their mind every second.
I no longer feel offended if men don't want to date me I can kind of understand why they wouldn't go their and it's not a put down just because I don't have a boyfriend or anyone is interested in me. I create my own value it is not measured by others.

There are only two reasons why one would be single.

-You are only interested in mates that have a much higher value than you have.

Let's be frank. Why would a highly educated, physically attractive, socially active, outgoing and mentally stable/healthy person with high quality family and friends, that has clear goals, passions and ambition in life, go for an uneducated, jobless, physically unattractive person, that's passive, has no social life, lower social background, has no passions in life, has bad friends and unhealthy family relationships and has mental health issues? It doesn't happen. If you can't get that high value partner you want, you have to up your own value first.

(I hope this was obviously enough the most extreme example possible so that you know I am not talking about you. I have no knowledge of your earlier posts)

-You refuse to act on opportunities you do have.

If you don't act, don't open up, or even push away people that are interested, or you don't get people interested that would be, nothing happens and you'll remain single.

From what you previously shared it might be a good idea to work on some other things in life. You are still young. When you have a more stable adult life then relationships will come. Do you work? Go to school? Learn life skills? Etc relationship happens when time is right. I don't think you are disturbed. Are you in therapy?

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Yes, I am in therapy and she is concerned about my social isolation and my independence. I did a test that she wanted to know why I wasn't as independant and I have fallen into a "dependence life trap" So, she is trying to find out the emotional reasons why this has happened. I go to Tafe and I am studying audio engineering I really like it and it is opening up new oppurtunities and new friendships in my life.

Being indecisive does not equate being disturbed.

You're young, you're allowed to get bored and change your mind.

Besides, when men look at you, they don't look at you through those lenses, I mean, how can they know that just from looking at you?

Takes time and experience for us to figure out what we really want.