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Apr 30, 2016, 07:42 PM
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I was looking for a representative of my company in Africa, and one of my friends linked me to a gentleman who offered me to help networking. I have bought my ticket and organized the trip to meet him and the potential agents. However, this man started sending me inappropriate messages via whatsapp, which included sexual content pictures, and comments about my body and asking for pictures in bikini.
I didn't know what to do as I was afraid of losing the contacts, even more that I had invested a good amount of money on tickets and hotel booking. But one day he sent me a nasty picture of a kid looking at a woman's breast, so I asked him nicely to stick with the business talk and not to communicate that way. He got very upset and told me that I should then look for the china ta myself, and that if I can't take I joke I'm dealing with the wrong continent. Did I do the right think? I am frustrated because I'd not have the contacts, but at the same time very relieved that I don't have to deal with this guy anymore. He passed me some contacts before this happened, but none of them ever replied my emails. Last edited by Brasucasulu; Apr 30, 2016 at 07:49 PM. Reason: Misspelling |
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#2
Apr 30, 2016, 07:49 PM
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Are you flying out there by yourself?
Of course it's appropriate to ask to keep communication business orientated. That was an odd statement about joking just because you stated you wanted to only speak about business. |
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Apr 30, 2016, 09:11 PM
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Is this guy even a legitimate business partner? Sounds like someone playing games
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Apr 30, 2016, 09:33 PM
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That sounds like a dangerous scam. And yes, you did something wrong, you did not tell anyone about this behavior. No reputable company will allow sexual harassment.
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| Brasucasulu, Chimney
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#5
Apr 30, 2016, 09:50 PM
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Also his so called contacts are very likely a scam
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| Brasucasulu, Chimney
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#6
Apr 30, 2016, 10:29 PM
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Good point, literary lark. Does this person represent a company that you could formally make a complaint to? Good on you for not tolerating his harassment any longer.
Your friend who linked you to him in the first place. ... Are there others from the same source that may be a possibility to help you network? Time frame. .... Are you able to delay the trip by moving the dates to a later time to allow more time to find a replacement? Re the "potential agents". Are they linked to this man or are you still able to contact and meet with them. ....just with someone else as your go between? |
| Brasucasulu
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May 01, 2016, 06:53 PM
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I tried but couldn't cancel the trip. I'm flying alone as I'm the person responsible for the export department. I have decided to search for other companies and meet them when I'm there.
The friend who linked me said she knows him for like 10 years. However, everything about him looks very shady. I called one of the called contacts, and the guy said that he can't give any details about his business over the phone... I think scams are everywhere, and when we're in business there is a big chance to get exposed to crooks like this guy. |
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#8
May 01, 2016, 06:57 PM
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#9
May 01, 2016, 07:24 PM
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Wow, there are way to many red flags going off about this guy already! This guy is bad news! Stay the hell away from him, and don't do business with him. Can someone else deal with him instead, a man ideally?
Is there anyone that you can report him to? I would if I were you. File a complaint with whoever you can, or whatever agency that you can. Save the emails as evidence. Whatever you do, don't meet this guy anywhere in person. Block his email if you don't have to deal with him. Tell him upfront that you don't find his jokes to be funny and to not send you anymore pics of a sexual nature, and to stop asking you for pics of you in a bikini or anything else that's suggestive in nature. Keep on telling him to keep things professional and that you don't appreciate his comments. Tell him to go to hell or hang up the phone on him if you have to. Get all of his contact info in writing instead of the phone. He sounds very creepy and shady, and possibly dangerous. Again, do NOT even agree to meet him anywhere! It'd be foolish and dangerous to do so. Especially in a foreign country to where the laws aren't as strict about certain crimes. Have a trusted male accompany you in public if you can't avoid meeting him in person for whatever reason. Whatever you do, don't go to his hotel or anywhere secluded with that guy. |
 Brasucasulu
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| Brasucasulu, Chimney
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May 01, 2016, 08:12 PM
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OK so you'll still be traveling there. Is there any non work related male that you can source who can be trusted and maybe "hired" as your safe companion? Where someone would find someone like that I've got no idea. What country and city/town are you traveling to and when?
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| Brasucasulu
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May 01, 2016, 09:09 PM
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I sure hope this guy doesn't have access to your bank account and business account info
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| Brasucasulu
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#12
May 01, 2016, 09:30 PM
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Thank you guys. I have asked a male friend to help me. I really don't want to meet him at all. I have blocked him on the phone as he was sending me nasty messages.
I can't report him anywhere because he's the boss on his company. |
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May 01, 2016, 09:30 PM
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No, he doesn't |
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May 01, 2016, 10:18 PM
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That is good news. Is this male friend already over in this African country or is it someone who can travel WITH you? Is the company that you are representing your own company, or are there others above you? If the latter I'd be asking for some guidance here. Wishing you success and expansion happiness. |
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May 02, 2016, 04:40 AM
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I would not keep any contact with this man business or otherwise
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May 02, 2016, 06:21 AM
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It is definitely a difficult option, but fortunately I found out that there will be a trade show at the same time I'm there, so I will totally block this sick person and try to get some contact through the event. This morning I got an email from this man with a "cute" good morning message. This person is 64 years old and married. Just crazy things happen to me all the time. |
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#17
May 02, 2016, 12:52 PM
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That is a good outcome. An opportunity to catch up with friends while they help you stay safe. Brilliant news about the trade show. Perfect timing. Sadly there are some really unpleasant people around us. I hope you have advised your friend who referred him of the situation so s/he (I forget which) is aware of this 64 year old's behaviour with women.
Have an amazing time over there. Friends and new business opportunities. What a trip. 
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May 02, 2016, 01:59 PM
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Thank you so much for your kind words. I'm very positive about everything, and I'm sure I will be to find an agent and expand my business. Have a lovely week. |
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#19
May 02, 2016, 02:23 PM
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Almost subliminal between co workers etc like were dually employed in a sense! I say expose it without exploiting yourself joining in, then then think of a plan cause lawyers won't help! Reframe to feel powerful
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| Brasucasulu
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