Why would I EVER want a boyfriend?

black-roses · May 05, 2016, 06:02 AM

Why would I ever want a boyfriend honestly? The first one then wanted to **** all our friends even though he broke up because I wanted to sleep with others. One of them while sleeping with me wanted to date my sister. One of my friends wanted my nudes then said he showed his friend which is why I had a go at him and we haven't talked in sometime. WHY WOULD I EVER want to have anything to do with these horrible people I call men let alone date them. I feel so betrayed and so used like a stupid fool for thinking that any of them would ever love me WHATEVER. I don't care when guys now talk to me I know what they freaking want and if they want that they can ask other girls I am nobodys temporary vagina. THANK YOU I FINALLY GOT THOSE FEELINGS OUT!!!:

nicoleflynn · May 05, 2016, 06:07 AM

I hear you! I am 69 and been on the dating sites for 13 years; it seems no matter what age these guys are clueless, etc....basically.....hello and ask for sex. Idiots.

Steiner of Thule · May 05, 2016, 06:39 AM

Well, it sounded like you did at one point. So I guess the correct thing would be why would you from this point and onwards.

May 05, 2016, 06:55 AM

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Originally Posted by black-roses

Why would I ever want a boyfriend honestly? The first one then wanted to **** all our friends even though he broke up because I wanted to sleep with others. One of them while sleeping with me wanted to date my sister. One of my friends wanted my nudes then said he showed his friend which is why I had a go at him and we haven't talked in sometime. WHY WOULD I EVER want to have anything to do with these horrible people I call men let alone date them. I feel so betrayed and so used like a stupid fool for thinking that any of them would ever love me WHATEVER. I don't care when guys now talk to me I know what they freaking want and if they want that they can ask other girls I am nobodys temporary vagina. THANK YOU I FINALLY GOT THOSE FEELINGS OUT!!!:

(((black-roses))) I am sorry your trust was betrayed like that and you are hurting. All men are not like this, only some.

black-roses · May 05, 2016, 06:55 AM

I guess I will go out back to hanging out with friends

Artchic528 · May 05, 2016, 06:57 AM

Roses, I totally get you. Men can be a pain in the backside. I'm questioning why they even exist outside of being able to make the next generation.

black-roses · May 05, 2016, 07:00 AM

I had the whole works happen to me guys betraying all my family secrets the more I told him the more I said the more he'd say I had to be humilated while one of them showed a text message i sent saying i loved him he embarrassed me by telling everyone he hated me called me a ***** and then had a "friend" call me a ***** and I still didn't learn I still talked to his friends. I should know if one boy in a group is bad they all are I guess I learnt the hard way. SO yeah, I am done **** love and it's illusion

Artchic528 · May 05, 2016, 07:02 AM

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I had the whole works happen to me guys betraying all my family secrets the more I told him the more I said the more he'd say I had to be humilated while one of them showed a text message i sent saying i loved him he embarrassed me by telling everyone he hated me called me a ***** and then had a "friend" call me a ***** and I still didn't learn I still talked to his friends. I should know if one boy in a group is bad they all are I guess I learnt the hard way. SO yeah, I am done **** love and it's illusion

Yup. I totally agree. I'm with you 100%. Guys are more trouble than they are worth. If you ever need to rant about them with me, I'm here.

black-roses · May 05, 2016, 07:22 AM

The frustrating part is I am straight and I don't want to date guys because they are too annoying I'd date woman but I don't have the sexual attraction... It feels like I am in limbo what do I do?

Artchic528 · May 05, 2016, 07:24 AM

You don't have to date anyone. Just be you. Be single. Lonely, yes, but it beats getting hurt all the time.

divine1966 · May 05, 2016, 08:24 AM

Work with your therapist on figuring out why you are attracted to these totally not nice guys.

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Artchic528 · May 05, 2016, 08:33 AM

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Work with your therapist on figuring out why you are attracted to these totally not nice guys.

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Well, when every guy you come across is "totally not nice", you have a sense that the rest aren't worth getting to know, lest you writhe in pain once more.

divine1966 · May 05, 2016, 08:37 AM

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Well, when every guy you come across is "totally not nice", you have a sense that the rest aren't worth getting to know, lest you writhe in pain once more.

It does feel this way after bad experiences I agree. But it's not the case. Working with a professional might help figuring out why it keeps happening and what could be done to change it

Artchic528 · May 05, 2016, 08:40 AM

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It does feel this way after bad experiences I agree. But it's not the case. Working with a professional might help figuring out why it keeps happening and what could be done to change it

Well, when all your experiences are bad, it doesn't take a professional to realize that the only problem in the equation are those who hurt you.

divine1966 · May 05, 2016, 10:52 AM

Usually it isn't that simple

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Steiner of Thule · 05:55 PM

I tend to think most people just like to use other people, gender aside. Men are no different than women when it comes to using others to attain their needs.

unaluna · May 05, 2016, 05:06 PM

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Well, when all your experiences are bad, it doesn't take a professional to realize that the only problem in the equation are those who hurt you.

No - the saying is, the constant in the equation IS you. YOU are the one thats the same in all the situations; you are the only one who you can change.

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divine1966 · May 05, 2016, 05:31 PM

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No - the saying is, the constant in the equation IS you. YOU are the one thats the same in all the situations; you are the only one who you can change.

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Yup, agree. My t says that healing/improvement starts with awareness. When you start being aware of what's going on, then you can change some things around. Changing things in your life could mean anything: changing your responses, changing your life style, your choices, your priorities. If you just go through the motion not even realizing what you are doing, then nothing will ever change.

Heck changes could mean simple things: if you don't want to end up with men who drink then stop picking up men in bars etc if you don't want to have trashy friends then stop hanging out in trashy crowds. Sometimes it's not that you have to change but choices that you make

black-roses · May 05, 2016, 11:07 PM

Well, the thing is I learnt to stop replying to men. I have managed to make it very clear if they want more than friends or in men terminology just a girl with sex onside I am not interested in that so **** off to hell little man bastard.

Artchic528 · May 06, 2016, 04:40 AM

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Well, the thing is I learnt to stop replying to men. I have managed to make it very clear if they want more than friends or in men terminology just a girl with sex onside I am not interested in that so **** off to hell little man bastard.

Yeah, who needs men, they are emotionless heartless beings.

black-roses · May 06, 2016, 05:21 AM

I feel better go woman and flower power!!!

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