[Yismymindblank12]

Ok I rarely see a girl so beautiful and it's so entrancing it's like a sirens call it's very scary but intimidating feeling.

I feel nervous, but brave and anxious she'll go before I talk to her, but usually it goes to **** real quick, but i got this girl's number and omfg. I like had a heart attack, I'm a dork mix of very awkward and confused but confident and focused.

I was very clear how I felt she was not wanting to hear my b.s. until I told her what I actually do instead of fast food and my lifestyle. She was hooked and asked me questions. Like even though realistically this won't go anywhere because I'm moving, but I have to say I always dreamed of a relationship from someone like that.

I was high from the intensity how real it got, I was insecure but this beautiful girl let me open up and was attracted to me.

I am like wishing sometimes in fairytale land that I be married eventually and have beautiful kids when I'm rich and successful. I find character attractive over looks, but if i can have both yes that's it.

This feeling is rare very rare. It happened a year ago. Before that 3 years ago I think and then never before that.

[Yismymindblank12]

Part two to this post.

This girl is coming over today at 3 pm. Omg I'm overwhelmed and suspicious. She said she has only dated felons and attract bad men. I don't know what to feel this is really weird. I got condoms just in case.

[divine1966]

I think it's wise to have condoms but could you just hang out and spend time together? I'd advice against sex early on.

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[Tsukiko]

Divine is right.

That she has dated only felons and bad men should indeed be a warning sign. That is typically an indication that something is deeply wrong with her self-esteem. She may become attached easily to anyone who pays attention to her. If this is the case, and she comes over and something does happen between you, it may be hurtful for her when you move. Just something to think about.

[Artchic528]

Originally Posted by Yismymindblank12

Part two to this post.

This girl is coming over today at 3 pm. Omg I'm overwhelmed and suspicious. She said she has only dated felons and attract bad men. I don't know what to feel this is really weird. I got condoms just in case.

Don't try to rush into things right away. Do things at a pace you're both comfortable with. Remember, a relationship is only as strong as the foundation on which it is built, and right now, you two are working on building the foundation. Make sure it's good and solid. Trust me, I know from experience.

[Yismymindblank12]

What if I said how sex came up because of her not me?
Like hard to believe, but the other she mentioned other than that if we are hanging out today I have to feed her. Which is no problem to me. I'd love to regardless.

[TishaBuv]

It's good to see you are looking forward to a date with a hot girl. Have fun, be careful. Enjoy it for what it is.

[divine1966]

It doesn't matter how it came up just don't do it too soon

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[Talthybius]

In the perfect romantic encounter for a female, isn't it true that there is sex on the first date? Doesn't she also want to feel unrelenting attraction?

I do agree though that you maybe shouldn't be the 'felons' or the 'bad men' she previously dated, if you want to brand yourself in her mind as something different.

Just saying that if you both have that special feeling of passion, and lust, why waste it with restraint? But it has to be there and from both sides, of course. Every woman wants a man that sweeps her off her feet. Not some very considerate calculated and careful person. But there's more than just sexual lust, of course.

[TishaBuv]

It depends on the person and what they are looking for. Some people make a habit of having sex on the first date. Do those often become second dates? Are those people taking risks?

But it's a good choice to hold off having sex right away, if you are looking for a relationship. You want to be sure that person is someone you could see yourself committing to.

As much as it seems old fashioned, I think people respect each other more if they wait and don't just jump into bed. They are then seen as marriage material. This isn't always true, but, I think that's a pretty common attitude.

I'm not saying there's anything wrong with having fun with a girl you may only see this once since you are moving. If you both want sex, why not?

I agree with Tisha...

Have fun Y.

Realize what it is and don't lose yourself yet, but you deserve happiness, no matter if it lasts a minute, a month or forever.

[unaluna]

I didnt like that remark from her about the felons. Like she was trying to drop a hint or give a warning? Remember they always warn women, if a guy seems too good to be true, then hes probably fake. Please be careful.

[Yismymindblank12]

So I did have a great day with her. Like I am overwhelmed with joy and pain hurt guilt.

I'm not that kind of person. I didn't have sex with her. I'm not going to initiate it no more.
They told I feel love for her that she needs to be respected and loved for who she is and it scares me because I'm always more logical gaurded and distant to make sure I'm not imposing myself into whomever.

I felt I lost control at one point and I'm making it right, I want it to ideally be long term. She is alot like me and I kept telling her she's perfect and beautiful without hesitation or worried what she thought.

I found out she's 17. And I'm not on with dating minors like ever, but I feel it's not ideal and I find it unfair my feelings drug me to her without my control first-hand.

I'm worried about legal stuff and scared to talk about it here because I'm not living that hell again as a child being the bad man or troublemaker I was that's not me. I will not let her get the wrong idea and that sex is out of the question period.

I feel guilty trying to. I felt like the person who used me and I wanted to die because that is my worst fear. I know i ****ed up. That I mean no harm and if that means letting her go for now so be it.

I have no qualms or worries I just want her the best she deserves it and I don't know her enough to say I love her, but I'm mature to know whats right or wrong.

I'm not like that. This never happened before and I can't blame anyone but myself and I do not want to ruin my life over enamoured for a minor. That's not ever who i am. I have no temptation now. I'm battling that hellish feeling that I'm the worst scum on earth.

I know I'll get flack for this, but I cannot let this turn into a train wreck. I seriously want a serious relationship just not now with her that our foundation was starting to form and it's not centered on sex. It isn't and it won't this all new to me and this is a very bad time for me.

[Yismymindblank12]

She dated a 28 year old man before getting divorced because she lived with him because she was emancipated. She was homeless out in Covington streets and it's a bad area very bad. I feel for her I really do no one deserves to be treated that poorly not one person.

It's like how I felt about my child my grandma and my best friend and my dog who passed away.

I really go all out when I do feel empathy and true love for every inch of their well-being.

I wish one day she will be happy. I wish it with and without me.

I'm not into sex as most guys are because it's a mask because people use me alot and I just want to be loved not someone to screw around with.

That I'm very loyal I never cheated and I focus all my energy to them even if it exhausts me. It's why I was in abusive relationships I gave that to the wrong people and when the right person comes along we be inseparable.

[Yismymindblank12]

You're all absolutely right. I've made that decision consciously and considerate as possible and I'm putting my best foot forward to undo the wrongs I've caused. I'm not perfect but I'm not a bad man.

Who said to give her a better lasting impression that's what I'm doing. We were very honest and open. This was unreal to me and I'm just doing all I can now to make things right.

[Yismymindblank12]

I texted her telling her, we shouldn't have sex. I want more than that, but like my friends told me, she needs to get her **** straight getting out of her situation. I can wait till she's 18 stay in contact and will come back for her when she's free from this.

It's the best I got, I can hope for the best, but I told her I don't know you enough to truly say I am in love with her, but she makes me feel like I do.

That she needs to be loved and deserves the respect she needs.

[divine1966]

Feeling "unrelenting attraction" doesn't mean there must be sex on the first date.

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[divine1966]

On a different note she is 17 and have been with 28 year olds and felons. Stay away and good for you not having sex. Smart move

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[Tsukiko]

"She dated a 28-year-old before getting divorced"? Who was she married to?

Was it a legal emancipation or did she just use the term to say she not longer lives with her parents? If she was legally emancipated, she is no longer considered a minor.

Why exactly are you beating yourself up? You didn't do anything wrong.

[divine1966]

If she is 17 she can't possibly be already married and divorced. Don't get it

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[Yismymindblank12]

Originally Posted by divine1966

If she is 17 she can't possibly be already married and divorced. Don't get it

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She didn't get the divorce yet she can't at 17 to clarify. She told me at 18 she can sign documents to leave him.

[Tsukiko]

I'm very confused.....

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[Yismymindblank12]

Originally Posted by Tsukiko-chan

"She dated a 28-year-old before getting divorced"? Who was she married to?

Was it a legal emancipation or did she just use the term to say she not longer lives with her parents? If she was legally emancipated, she is no longer considered a minor.

Why exactly are you beating yourself up? You didn't do anything wrong.

A 28 year old man, I guess it's all legal. Like her story passes even regardless how unusual it is. She had a ring on, but she was in a broken home I guess was so bad she moved with him. Basically a stranger 28 year old to get close to her and eventually get married at 16. She regrets it all.
That she feels unloved and was beaten around alot. I just am the kind of person that knows what she goes through. You'd never know behind what pretty smile has in store.
I'm that kind of person who takes care of my friends and makes sure everyone is happy comfortable and not left behind.

I think this is something I needed to know what love actually feels like for me to grasp how to be better at it. I'm not in love with her because I don't knowher but the feeling of it being persistent is here .

[Tsukiko]

She's 17, married, and still wears her wedding ring despite claiming she regrets the relationship. This poor girl has issues that need to be dealt with by a professional. While your desire to care for her is so sweet, you need to keep your distance emotionally. Be her friend but don't expect that the relationship will change her or solve her problems.

Originally Posted by Yismymindblank12

A 28 year old man, I guess it's all legal. Like her story passes even regardless how unusual it is. She had a ring on, but she was in a broken home I guess was so bad she moved with him. Basically a stranger 28 year old to get close to her and eventually get married at 16. She regrets it all.
That she feels unloved and was beaten around alot. I just am the kind of person that knows what she goes through. You'd never know behind what pretty smile has in store.
I'm that kind of person who takes care of my friends and makes sure everyone is happy comfortable and not left behind.

I think this is something I needed to know what love actually feels like for me to grasp how to be better at it. I'm not in love with her because I don't knowher but the feeling of it being persistent is here .

[divine1966]

Anyone can wear a ring. It doesn't make one legally married.

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