[Yismymindblank12]

I used to be so nervous of new relationships, now none of them make me feel built up. Thankfully more relaxed, but the downside is that it's like most girls I'm with feel the same even from different back grounds and experiences to offer, their core ability of emotional intelligence of how their words or behavior and how they can affect me don't matter to them.

Like I'm not really going too deep into this, but I've been exhausted from being disrespected all the time. Like show some gratitude I give you attention we went to do nice things I certainly didn't have to do it with you, but wanted your company and I sometimes believe I'm too intimidating because of my independent mind. I don't let a girl tell me to change my dress, my attitude or behavior or core things that shouldn't affect them and never harmed anyone shouldn't be an issue even if you want me to be perfect to you. You shouldn't change me, I'll never listen and it sometimes intimidated previous girls because they feel the need of control over me or they fear me cheating like. It's too early for that and why would I go all this way for you to cheat on you for someone else if we were dating.

Usually these girls either and up with me cheating on me later or they ditch me without me knowing.

I'm not compatible I get it, but why so disrespectful?

I was with a nice girl yesterday she's serious about a relationship, but before going into one is afraid if hurting me or me leaving her. I know because she wants to stay in ky and I'm going to Dallas Texas, but regardless I want to make it work. I assured her I wanted to, because deep down every new person uses me or leaves me because some shallow reason regardless how nice they were.

"Listen ....., I like you, but I can't do this. There is nothing wrong with you and you're really cute and sweet but you're not right for me and I just can't. I'm sorry."
Literally just got this no surprise here.

[cluelessgal]

You'd probably not like what I say, but I have no intention to hurt you or make you feel bad. Maybe I am wrong....but here's my 2 cents.

If the whole world is the problem....then probably you are the problem.

I've never had any guy give me compliments. Friends treat me like trash and use me. I used to feel "Why is world like this?"
But after analyzing....I realize that maybe I am the problem. I don't pay any attention to the way I look....so no wonder no one compliments me . Friends treat me like trash because I treat myself like trash.

You find every girl the same. Maybe you are not making a deep connection. Maybe you are going with the wrong kind...I mean the wrong clique. You say you do nice things for girls....you can do 1000 things nice for a person (guy or gal), but if you don't make them feel special and loved in a relationship, they'd probably leave.

When you truly make a connection with someone, then you want to do things for them, just to see them happy. And you feel comfortable in your own skin. If it's not like that, then you were never into the girls you date in the first place.

But if it was like that but girls still cheat on you and dump you, may be you need to take a good look at your self-esteem.

Good luck man!

[Yismymindblank12]

Originally Posted by cluelessgal

You'd probably not like what I say, but I have no intention to hurt you or make you feel bad. Maybe I am wrong....but here's my 2 cents.

If the whole world is the problem....then probably you are the problem.

I've never had any guy give me compliments. Friends treat me like trash and use me. I used to feel "Why is world like this?"
But after analyzing....I realize that maybe I am the problem. I don't pay any attention to the way I look....so no wonder no one compliments me . Friends treat me like trash because I treat myself like trash.

You find every girl the same. Maybe you are not making a deep connection. Maybe you are going with the wrong kind...I mean the wrong clique. You say you do nice things for girls....you can do 1000 things nice for a person (guy or gal), but if you don't make them feel special and loved in a relationship, they'd probably leave.

When you truly make a connection with someone, then you want to do things for them, just to see them happy. And you feel comfortable in your own skin. If it's not like that, then you were never into the girls you date in the first place.

But if it was like that but girls still cheat on you and dump you, may be you need to take a good look at your self-esteem.

Good luck man!

It was like that, and it I know my self esteem is out of wack in some areas. I got my time wasted letting myself make someone feel special, but they didn't do the same and when they do its not long.
I'm aware how it is.

It's either I'm abused and controlled not having room to open up and be myself or I run into people who have interest, but not as much and they never give me a warning so I usually never date anyone, but the past 2 months changed that.

I'm either not enough something or too much this or that. Never I'm fine. I know my self esteem is shot yours be too if everyone you put your all gives up on you despite telling you and making false promises.
It's just hollow after awhile.