[August7682]

I am very confused about an accusation that my parents brought up to me, and I'd like your opinions. I have a friend, someone who I consider myself very close with. My parents believe there are romantic feelings involved but I do not. We have told each other that we love each other, but in a friendship sort of way. My friend told me awhile back that she had a brain tumor, but then a few weeks later she said it was gone and now she's fine. I know for a fact that she told me she had a brain tumor, because I was hysterical for the next few days. She said they "did more tests" and now she's going to be fine. She was very upset, and so was I, so maybe she said they were only testing her for a brain tumor. Does this thing happen or is this manipulative? Sometimes she does leave me with slightly suicidal text messages and then doesn't respond for hours, so I get super worried. On top of all that though, she is an amazing friend to me. She never judges me, or is rude, or says anything hurtful at all to me. I opened up to her about my SH and depression and she understood me like no one else, because she's been through those things herself. She always knows just what to say to me to make me feel better.

She is very protective of me though. She goes out of her way to confront people that have hurt me in any sort of way. If I tell her someone was being rude to me, she would text them right away asking what is wrong with them, but she never tells me that she does that. She has lied to me, only once before about something. I wonder if maybe there is something I'm not seeing here. I never want to stop being friends with her though because she is such a great friend to me. Sometimes she doesn't say much to me over text (this is how we primarily communicate)and I wonder if that's because she just doesn't feel like talking to me or if she is just too busy. Is any of this normal? Thanks.

[adam_k]

The tumor thing may have been a misunderstanding. If I was getting a test done for something like that I may not have been thinking Cleary.

I don't think it is necessarily a good idea to send friends a suicidal ish text. Unless you are having a real crisis and need to get to a safe place.

Thoughts of suicide are a symptom of depression and I have had freibds I have talked to about them.

It sounds like you found a friend that cares and understands you. That is a good thing.

[curley]

I agree, the conversation about the tumor could have been a misunderstanding.
I have had friends that "played" the suicide card with me and I do not think that is fair or right. I believe that someone that is truly suicidal would not threaten all the time, sadly they would do it!
I find that kind of a manipulation!
If you are out with this friend and they stick up for you for whatever reason that is one thing but to text people and tell them off kind of sends the message that they have to take care of you! I don't think that is a good idea.
This person does sound like they care, but maybe they play games!

[divine1966]

I worked with someone who periodically announced she has deadly tumors or otherwise sick. Then she'd say it's not that or it went away. Possibly cry for attention or way to get put of things like using it as an excuse

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