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May 29, 2016, 08:34 PM
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Okay, well let me first start off by saying my name is Sarah, the girl I likes name is K (she is bisexual but swings more towards girls) and her boyfriends name is.... J. Well I met K through a mutual friend that knew I have been raped and turns out K was raped by the same guy. When we first met there was an instant connection and we never felt awkward around each other (I usually do when I first meet people) we both acknowledge the fact that there is a very strong and deep connection. I feel as if she is my soulmate but my friend believes its just because of our pasts. I spent the night with K, well at first her bf kept interrupting us hanging out by popping in (we had never hung out before for a long period of time and he knew that, oh yeah he tried to convince me the night before to not go so they could have sex) then later in the night he made her really upset to the point she almost started crying and I got mad bc I care about her. Well we were joking around and she was showing me a scratch she got on her back so she took her shirt off and only had a bra on. We both kept flirting really hardcore and then she convinced me to take my shirt off and we laid down. We kept talking and she kept inching closer to my face and she was about to kiss me and I wanted to kiss her so so bad. During the night we spooned and neither one of thought nothing of it. I just don't know what to do because I care about her so much and her bf and her argue all the time, she always gets upset because of him. Then a few days later she admitted that when I took my shirt off and we almost kissed that she was really turned on by me... Also J said that all they ever do is ***** this also made me mad because I relationship should be about more than f**king, he just doesn't treat her how she should be treated....
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May 29, 2016, 09:07 PM
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I know how exhilirating it is when you meet someone and feel that kind of chemistry.
This girl, K, is in a relationship and the truth is, when a 3rd party invades their space, the two will align themselves against you. You are in a vulnerable position and I don't want you to get hurt. I recommend cooling things off with K, and if she ever breaks up with J, then proceed with pursuing her. If it is meant to be, it will be. I promise. I know how hard it is to resist someone when you are infatuated, and you may choose to sleep with her, despite the boyfriend. Keep your head on straight. Don't be someone's "side piece". Enjoy the sex but maintain control over yourself and your emotions. Keep in touch 
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May 29, 2016, 10:15 PM
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She even admits that she likes me. All my friends insist that I should to to "win her over" I'm trying so hard to keep my head on straight. Its so frustrating when I'm not sure if I should continue to be all flirty and stuff. Ugh ): Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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May 30, 2016, 12:18 AM
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No, I do not think you should try and "win her over." She is in a relationship right now and trying to "steal her away" will only lead to pain and disappointment. You should back off unless and until she is single. She needs to decide for herself who she wants to be with. If she truly wants to be with you, SHE will make that decision and leave her boyfriend.
As a lesbian, I can tell you first-hand that going after a girl who is in a relationship with a man is a BAD idea. When I was in high school, I was in a situation similar to yours. There are bi women who will have relationships with you, and by women who will always date men and only want you "on the side." It's important to learn how to tell the difference so that you don't get hurt. As long as this girl has a bf, you know where you stand. She is with someone else. Leave that alone. If she really wants to be with you, then she will Leave her bf. But that needs to be her decision. You should not coax or pressure her into it. |
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May 30, 2016, 12:27 AM
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As someone who, in the past, has actively pursued someone in a relationship, ended up with the person eventually, only to have this person "stolen" (for lack of a better term) from me in the same manner, I would totally advise against going after her. About the time someone does the same in return, you'll be shattered and you don't deserve that.
Scorpiosis' advice is solid. If it's going to happen, let it happen naturally.
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May 30, 2016, 01:26 AM
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I think the best thing you can do is be honest and say how you feel. If things have ran there course with the bf then it is one thing. I wouldn't fight to win her out of his arms.it should be her choice to leave him and get into a new relationship.
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