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Old May 31, 2016, 05:06 PM
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I have to ask "Why?"

I'm in a heterosexual relationship of 12 years.

Suddenly, my boyfriend wants to have sex with a lot of other women. He hasn't done so, yet, but I wondering "why", this has started happening all of the sudden?

He wants to have sex with my 90 yr. old woman, friend. I said "No, Way!". Now he is talking about having sex with an old friend, and wants to get something going (again), with her, but she lives 2000 miles away.

He constantly is masturbating, using the excuse that he needs to go lay down, as he isn't feeling well, or just needs some rest. We live in a 5th wheel, so I can feel it when he is "jerking" the trailer, so to speak.

I have made it clear that I do "NOT", want anyone else intruding into our relationship, yet he is continuing to pressure me.

This may be a "relationship" breaker, for me.

What do ya'll think?

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Old Jun 01, 2016, 02:23 AM
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Maybe couples counseling could be helpful? would he even consider going? Regardless if he will go to Therapy or not, You should find a therapist to help you manage through this situation and find out what is going to be the best thing for you.

Personally this would most likely be a deal breaker for me.

I'm sorry I hope you can find some hope.
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Old Jun 01, 2016, 03:38 AM
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What do I think?

I think his urges go beyond the 'norm'. Whatever that 'norm' may be. I say that because there are all sorts out there ... but this is not something I think someone who's in a committed relationship should have to put up with. Not many would.

Sounds like he has some unresolved issues that he'll need help working through.

As for the 90 year old? *gags*
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Old Jun 01, 2016, 08:50 AM
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My suggestion would be to encourage him to see his doctor or a neurologist. Given that there are sudden, striking changes in thought and behavior (such as his desire to have sex with a 90-year-old friend) in my opinion it is important to consider the possibility that he is experiencing a neurological disorder.
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Old Jun 01, 2016, 11:03 AM
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Kick him to the curb

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