[ThunderGoddess]

Today was really stressful I've been holding so much in for the past year. About 7 months ago my boyfriend was on his way to cheat on me with a girl he met that night I caught him on the way over there. So fast forward 7 months later we are both working a lot over 40 hours a week we still spend time together and we still love each other but I feel like my love for him changed it's not like it used to be and since I started my new job I developed a serious crush on a coworker which I just wish would stop I try to avoid the guy and I'm even trying to switch my hours so we don't work together because I can't get tangled up in an affair.
So today I was just so upset about it and I felt like I was lashing out on my boyfriend because I had this secret I was keeping so I finally just told him we both cried and said we will both go back to couples therapy regularly again. I feel better that I told him but I still feel sad about everything and feel worried about our relationship in general.

[Bill3]

It sounds like you are strongly committed to your relationship and have the courage to speak about it and to take good steps to maintain and strengthen it.

[ThunderGoddess]

Yeah I am and I feel so sad that I have these feelings for someone else but I went to my therapist today and my boyfriend and I are going to start going back to her individually and together so we can try and figure this out we have been together for 4 years now so I think it's worth trying to save the relationship if we can.

[Talthybius]

That you develop feelings for someone else doesn't say anything about the relationship with your BF, at least not to me.

If not for him almost cheating on you, I'd say counseling might not be needed.

I think it is a really strong move to tell him about your feelings and your problems with it. I hope he sees it the same way and it turned out to be the right decision. I feel so many people never talk about the quality of their relationship, it deteriorates and then one person just calls it quits at some point, and this is as a clap of thunder in a clear sky to the other. You at least have to help each other be the best possible partner imaginable.

Whatever you feel, it will pass in time. Especially if you don't see him again.