[WrkNPrgress]

I recently broke up a long-term relationship that had become abusive.

My Ex blocked me on Facebook a day later. I expected to be unfriended, that's fine. In fact I prefer not to have any contact or sight of the person as possible beyond necessary conversations about moving my stuff, separating accounts, legal and other logistics.

However we have shared personal Friend Groups. These are Facebook groups that were set up by people who have moved across the country and our local friends use these groups to post news, plan events, keep in touch and post other personal announcements in a central supportive space.

Because I am "blocked" by my Ex, I can no longer see my ex's comments in these groups. I can, however, see other people's responses.

Blocking vs 'Unfriending' feels much like a passive aggressive tactic to isolate me from group conversations. it allows me to see people talking to my Ex, but leaves me out of the conversation — in a shared space that should be safe and respectfule for both of us.

I'm quite pissed about it. I thought about writing an email explaining how this hurts me but I really don't want to give into that manipulation and give my Ex the extra contact or another controlling decision to make for me.

I can't decided if I should call it out for what it is; manipulative, controlling, petty and game-playing or if I should ignore the ******** and just try not to be affected (as I clearly am.)

Keep in mind, I am not saying this person needs to "friend" Me at all. I don't want to see her own thread or her see mine. I know we can keep a respectful space, and privacy without blocking each other within mutual groups. That's what grown ups do.

[Trippin2.0]

Well as long as she can't stop you from seeing important info (she's not autonomously controlling these groups and deciding what they do and when) then I would suggest you just carry on with your life.

[~Christina]

As Trippin said you can still see and interact with the group.

Maybe not an ideal situation for you. But you guys broke up and she felt the need to set some boundaries and did so . Same as you can also use boundaries.

I would imagine once the initial pain fades this isn't going to be a big problem.

[divine1966]

If relationship was abusive I think it is wise to block each other and not see each other posts. You can still be friends with others

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