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Jun 12, 2016, 07:06 AM
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I've been with my boyfriend for two years now. Never cheated on him or any other relationship until the other night. I was at the bar flirting with a much older man and we ended up having sex in my friends camper for hours. I've been talking to this man non stop since it happened. I just can't seem to stop myself. The thrill and excitement is to much. I feel horrible i cheated. I love my boyfriend and want to spend the rest of my life with him. I don't know if I should tell him or not. I know I need to cut things off with the other guy. But I just can't do it. Manic episodes are the worst when you know what you're doing but can't stop doing it. Any thoughts or advice?
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Jun 12, 2016, 06:02 PM
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Don't blame mania for your indiscretion.
Own your behaviour. Yes, mania makes us do weird things but you have a moral compass, surely? You have one of two choices. 250% cut ties with this guy you're messing around with. And see how things go with your boyfriend. Or continue to see this guy you're messing around with and lose your boyfriend forever. Sorry. I call a spade a spade and I'm not about to beat about the bush when what you're doing is pretty serious and will have long term repercussions for all three of you - not just you. Last edited by Crazy Hitch; Jun 12, 2016 at 06:54 PM. Reason: edited my language |
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Jun 12, 2016, 09:19 PM
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 You owe it to your boyfriend to be honest about this. Your only chance at possibly salvaging anything with him is to immediately drop all communication with this other man and cut him out of your life. Even if your boyfriend wants to try to stay with you, there will be a lot of emotional fallout, at the very least. Start reading now on how to support your boyfriend through this, just in case he decides he wants to try. Our mental health issues don't serve as passes - quite the opposite. They just mean that we have to work that much harder to succeed and find happiness in life.
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Jun 12, 2016, 10:13 PM
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I agree with the above advice. I hope that condoms were/are used.
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Jun 13, 2016, 03:15 AM
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First off, I see this is your first post so Hi and
 to PC  We all have made some error in judgement in some area of life or another. All we can do is learn from them. If you truly want to be with ur boyfriend. Cut all ties with this other man immediately! And then you will have to have a uncomfortable serious HONEST conversation w/ ur BF. Hopefully he can forgive you and eventually be able to move past it, but there is no garranttee of his reaction or the outcome. I would fess up soon too. Cuz these things usualy come out sooner or later and the longer you wait the more possibility that he finds out thru someone else or some other evidence, then you not only cheated you also hid/ lied about it. Thats a double whammy. Truly hope it is mendable, but bottom line..you committed the crime..so you gotta do the time..whatever the sentence may be.  Keep Writing and Be Safe   
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