[SeptemberMorn]

Love is NOT

controlling or being controlled by another in[*] what your spiritual/religious beliefs are[*]being allowed to practise those beliefs as you see fit[*]who you are allowed to have as friends[*]who you are allowed to see and who you are not allowed [*]being made to or making someone choose between you and a dear friend or family member(s) [*]to not trust the other person implicitly[*]to always need to know what they've been doing, where and why[*]to not respect their wants and wishes[*]to consistently put your own priorities at the top until they give up their own priorities
to manipulate them by[*]telling a lie, half-truth or withholding information to fix an outcome[*]to turn on the tears or anger or give ultimatums to change or fix an outcome[*]to spy on the other person or any of their family and friends[*]to use such information with malice and intent to divide and/or hurt[*]to insist on your wants regardless of the pain it may cause others[*]to hold over or use something, mental, emotional or physical, to control their behavior[*]to try and change who they are into your own perception of who they "should" be[*]to accomplish the change regardless of how the other person feels about it or the pain it causes them or others
[*]to strike, punish or intimidate in any form!

Main Entry: 2respect
Function: transitive verb
1 a : to consider worthy of high regard : ESTEEM b : to refrain from interfering with

Main Entry: 2esteem
Function: transitive verb
Etymology: Middle English estemen to estimate, from Middle French estimer, from Latin aestimare
1 archaic
2 a : to view as : CONSIDER <esteem it a privilege>
3 : to set a high value on : regard highly and prize accordingly

Main Entry: 1trust
Function: noun
Pronunciation: 'tr&st
Etymology: treowe faithful -- more at TRUE
1 a : assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something b : one in which confidence is placed

Main Entry: 2trust
intransitive senses (intransitive verb)
1 a : to place confidence : DEPEND <trust in God> <trust to luck> b : to be confident : HOPE
transitive senses
1 a : to commit or place in one's care or keeping : ENTRUST b : to permit to stay or go or to do something without fear or misgiving
2 a : to rely on the truthfulness or accuracy of : BELIEVE b : to place confidence in : rely on c : to hope or expect confidently

Without these, there is no love. There is too much dependency, insecurity in oneself or the other person; there is CONTROL, MANIPULATION and OWNERSHIP... which are NOT love.

[Fuzzybear]

<font color="#000088">I think that the one about not allowing them to be with or around certain people,if it's your own children your talking about. It can still be done out of Love, if you know that those particular people/person is a harm or threat to them, and you're keeping them away from them,or just the one person,depending on the situation in order to protect them, out of Love for them and their safety.
I think that would still be an example of Love for your own children.
But if it's a relationship issue, like dating or marriage, than No, you should trust them if you really love them.
But that was a very good list of examples of what love is not!</font>

[AmatureBombTech]

Another beautiful and correct post September.

I always enjoy reading your writings.

ABT

[SeptemberMorn]

Justice, you are so right! A parent does have the responsibility to keep their children safe and to make the proper choices for them.

[SeptemberMorn]

Thank you so much {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{ABT}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

[SeptemberMorn]

Thank you, Fuzzy!

It came to me earlier that I forgot one important point:

Love does not hurt for the most part.

[Direction]

Love is also not just a noun...it is a verb also...

I think you already said what love is not...reversing them all into positives...you very clearly see that love is a verb (an action) not just a feeling.

Therefore...Love is not just a feeling towards another person...there is much more to it than that.

[SeptemberMorn]

Read my post on "What is Love??"

EDIT: How quickly we forget! You even responded to that post!

Thank you

I wonder if I will remember everything.

[SeptemberMorn]

If it hurts more than it feels good, it's not love, Hon.

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Keb}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

[SeptemberMorn]

I need to add:

If you ALLOW these things to go on, they you are as guilty as the person doing them.

[Direction]

I know my memory can be bad sometimes...

In this cas I remembered your post...I was trying to make a specific point that love is not just a feeling, but rather an action...it kind of sums it all up from what both threads already clearly show...Love is indeed an action

[SeptemberMorn]

INDEED!

[meander]

I agree... and love is wonderful :-)