[harmlessgirl]

I'm about 8 weeks along and have not spoken with my mother for almost double that amount of time.

Life has been easier without speaking to her, but I feel like this is important and I'd like to write a card rather than call since we live on opposite sides of the country.

What do I say without giving her an automatic "in" back into my life? I want low contact with her - I just need to be wise with what I say and not get too emotional.

TIA

[NewCommer]

How can living that apart give you trouble with her?
Why don't you tell her exactly what you expect?
Like "i don't need you to comeback" i mean, being sensitive, but don't giving her the chance of letting herself in
Can i ask you what's wrong with her?

[FireIsland123]

This is YOUR time for once. Not hers. Of course you want to share it, but not at your expense or your baby's. I think a card is the right way to go. Don't let her manipulate you. Your time. Your baby. Your life. Not hers.

[~Christina]

I would personally just wait a while and give yourself time to think about not only how and when to let her know and figure out how you want to handle her more so in your life.

Remember You are the only one that can set boundaries..

Congrats on your bundle of joy

[Crazy Hitch]

Personally, I think it's a bit too early to tell her. By all means, you can be the one to tell her rather than find out via someone else if that's what you wish. But if your future doesn't look like she's going to be apart of it for now, rather focus on your bubs. This should be an exciting time for you.

[highnrg1]

Tell her SHE'S going to be a grandma! That way it's all about her