[black-roses]

I have not really admitted it in the past for whatever reason I was still ashamed of feeling my true emotions but I just realised that I have a sexual and romantic attraction to my female friend. I haven't really said anything to her as well she is younger 17 and I am 20 plus I don't want to make anything weird I also consider that she also has personal emotional stuff to deal with just like I do. Even if, I don't admit my feelings to her I want to admit it on here that I actually would consider entering a romantic relationship with her. It is so weird because I always swore that I liked men but this feels so right nothing feels righter then when I am around her. It is almost like it makes sense that no relationship with any boy has ever worked out maybe I am not meant to be with boys but with her... Do I ever tell her or do I leave it alone?

[NewCommer]

If you'd let me ask. Are you totally sure about your feelings?
There's nothing wrong in feeling that way, but also try to be sure that you totally dislike men and it isn't just an escape method or something

Also, how could you be so sure that your friend might feel the same way?
Please don't take my answers the wrong way, i'm just asking to try to help you sorting these things.
Best of wishes, be safe

[~Christina]

It might explain why you have such strong hateful feelings towards men on so many levels.

Should you tell her? I would vote for NO you are not in any way feeling good about yourself and your BPD issues need to be addressed and worked on before you even attempt a romantic relationship when anyone.

For now put yourself first and get the help you really need to become a healthier person

[NewCommer]

Originally Posted by ~Christina

It might explain why you have such strong hateful feelings towards men on so many levels.

Should you tell her? I would vote for NO you are not in any way feeling good about yourself and your BPD issues need to be addressed and worked on before you even attempt a romantic relationship when anyone.

For now put yourself first and get the help you really need to become a healthier person

Agree, BUT. Feeling atraction to another girl doesn't necessary means that she has to hate men. Don't you think it has another root. I mean, it's related, but i wouldn't think it's exactly that

[~Christina]

Originally Posted by NewCommer

Agree, BUT. Feeling atraction to another girl doesn't necessary means that she has to hate men. Don't you think it has another root. I mean, it's related, but i wouldn't think it's exactly that

Of course it wasn't meant as a blanket statement, I'm sorry for anyone that felt I meant it that way.

I was just responding to the OP that I have followed her on her many many threads that have revolved around strong hateful feelings of wanting men to just stay the hell away from her...

If she is finding a female is attractive is a wonderful thing and totally fine. I just felt that it might be in best interest to work on herself so that she will be in a better place to have a healthy relationship.

Blackroses knows I support her

[NewCommer]

Originally Posted by ~Christina

Of course it wasn't meant as a blanket statement, I'm sorry for anyone that felt I meant it that way.

I was just responding to the OP that I have followed her on her many many threads that have revolved around strong hateful feelings of wanting men to just stay the hell away from her...

If she is finding a female is attractive is a wonderful thing and totally fine. I just felt that it might be in best interest to work on herself so that she will be in a better place to have a healthy relationship.

Blackroses knows I support her

No need to apologize, i also have followed a few posts, so that's why i'm also curious of the reason of these hate towards men. I mean, it's totally fine fer her to like her friend, but that's not a reason for hating men (I like girls but also don't hate men, i'm a guy so please don't get me wrong hehe).

Be safe everyone
If i ever say something that any of you could get "wrong" my apologies. My english isn't quite perfect

[black-roses]

I feel hatred for men because I feel like they have been denying my whole existence and manipulate me to believe in what they believe in even manipulating me to feel attracted and have sex with them and I also feel anger at myself for not even questioning my feelings and blindly believing that I am 100% straight just so I don't shame my parents. I guess that anger shouldn't be exclusive to the whole gender because it is not the either genders fault that mum wouldn't approve if I was less then straight but I still feel angry and somewhat like they manipulated me to have feelings for them for their own selfish needs. Of course I know that not all men are like what I am describing but I would be a little less angry if men that I know in my family or whatever didn't undermine me when I say I feel something like I am a stupid little child. I know what I feel and I am tried of desperate men telling me how the **** I feel and think!!!

[divine1966]

Who are these men you are talking about? Specific men or men in general? I don't understand how men manipulated you.

Now if you like ladies it's fine. We like who we like. It doesn't mean you need to hate men. One thing doesn't exclude the other.

I do recommend to leave 17 year old alone. If you are interested in women then somebody over 18 is a better idea

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[black-roses]

I was thinking of leaving her alone simply because she is 17 it's just how I view the situation that I ended up hating all men. I guess I need to change my perspection on them.