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Jul 23, 2016, 12:18 AM
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I feel so bad, I was on Fb today, and my moms pic shows up in my fb log. Her and her "I'm famous and cool and better than anyone " pictures.. ugh.. how can my own mom make me so sick...
She was a total disconnect with me my entire life, and not exaggerating. no emotional support, basically fed and clothed me, and then emotionally/verbally abused me. Grew up with no confidence or self esteem was told I was ugly, no one would ever want me, etc etc.. ended up in an abusive marraige with another Narcissist. She turns everything around to be about her and she has no care or empathy. as hard as I try I cannot connect.. I'm thankful to be working through this in therapy and learning about narcissism and how I will never please her and how I need to change my expectations and change the dynamic of the relationship and the boundaries.. this has really helped me !! But I get sad that her pictures make me sick..  . she's my mom...
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 Out There, TishaBuv
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Jul 23, 2016, 12:22 AM
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Do you keep in contact with her?
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Jul 23, 2016, 09:11 AM
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Honestly I try not to as much as I can because everytime I talk to her or see her I get majorly triggered. She treats me like crap, and she gossips, so I can't tell her anything, anything I do she turns it around and makes some kind of drama.. I just don't anymore. and she cares nothing for my kids.. She just wants to brag about her stardom. ugh.sad
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Jul 23, 2016, 09:38 AM
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I had one of those ( now passed ). Difficult as it is , it's more understood now than maybe in the past , hence books like " It's not you - it's your Mother " I just didn't anymore either in the end , I wouldn't tell her anything. But our energy goes to defending ourselves instead of being who we are and thriving. I'm still working on it all in therapy too.
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Jul 23, 2016, 11:29 AM
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So totally relate!
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Jul 24, 2016, 01:19 AM
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I'd take her off my feed
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Jul 25, 2016, 11:31 PM
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Hi
My mother is like yours. It's superficial!! I've decided to go no contact because it hurts too much. Every time I have contact it opens up a gaping wound. I need to be happy. PH |
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Jul 26, 2016, 08:07 AM
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Thank you all, its so true, everything,, and Purple heart you are right its like opening up a gaping wound..
Its like a total disconnect like you are trying to plug something into a socket that has unmatching holes or soemthing, and just doesnt allow it to be plugged in.. My siblings are more superficial so they all "connect" superficalliy, while I connect to no one in the family. |
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Jul 26, 2016, 12:52 PM
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