[selfhelper]

I looked through numerous threads but did not find anything about this problem. I started having problems with my daughter since she was about 11 years old. I was always afraid that her threats of committing suicide would be carried out. Then we dealt with her skipping class, getting arrested for shoplifting, and smoking pot. We went through counseling, family counseling, and had ups and downs. Progressively she, now 19, has become verbally abusive, completely demanding and irrational. This is in a very tight nutshell. Any support groups or recommended resources?

[NewCommer]

So no counseling has worked so far?

[Rose3]

Keep trying. Have there been some positive connections?

[scorpiosis37]

She's an adult so you don't really have any control over her anymore. Does she still live at home? If so, you could always tell her she needs to stand on her own two feet. Is she in college? Is she working? Is she having success in other areas of her life?

Yes. Does she live at home? Does she go to school? If she is not going to school she should be contributing. Demand she pay rent or move out. At the same time withdraw from being her 'keeper'. She should be making her own meals, laundry, etc.My own daughter was a handful. After 3 months of paying for her room and board she quickly established some self sufficiency and moved out. As hard as it is you need to let her go and do this. In the meantime never back down. When setting your limits don't say anything you aren't prepared to carry out.

When it comes to her mental health, there is a fine line you need to find between being supportive and feeling held hostage by her threats. You may have to gather your wits about you and leave her to her own devices. Being there for her is different than running your own life according to her threats.