[Jtmf5220]

I done a lot of terrible things in my past, mainly because I as in a relationship that I was unhappy in. I stayed for the kids. The guilt I carried over those things has affected every aspect of my life. I finally found the courage to leave, but only because I fell in love with another woman, who I told I was separated. I lied to her about my past relationship and about being in a relationship when we met. My guilt caused me to nearly beg for my ex back after a couple of months....only because I hates not being there for the kids. I quickly retracted everything and then hid/lied about it to my current girlfriend. My guilt has caused me to not be the best parent I can be, and now push away the one woman ive ever loved. Recently, all of my lies came to the surface and I finally opened up and admitted everything. I feel free, and I'm such a different person....Im free of that guilt and I know I can give this woman everything she deserves. She wants to work past it, but how is she ever going to do that? How can I repair this? I really need help.

[Skeezyks]

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[hannabee]

Sounds very similar to what my Husband did to me. Lied about being divorced from the onset. I have to say that 35 years later, I still don't believe half of what he says! I wish you luck with the new woman and would recommend that you deal together with her trust issues NOW, before you possibly bring any kids with her into the relationship.

I stayed in the marriage for my children and I still don't regret it to this day. Some people seem to think I made a mistake (here on this forum) but I don't think I did. I chose him and I chose to have children with him, so I figure I owed it to them to give them a happy family, which is what they had.

It is actually easier to pretend happiness than most people realize. And sometimes, pretending has a way of rubbing off on you. I came from a broken and severely dysfunctional family and I never, ever, forgave my parents for being so self-centered that they did not do what was best for their children.

Wishing you all the best!

[Bill3]

She wants to work past it, but how is she ever going to do that?

Well she is willing to try; why don't you try too and see what develops?

[Trippin2.0]

Why not ask her what she needs from you?