Narcissistic Brother

Some of you may remember a few posts about my familly situation and how they just ignore most of the things happening around.

Well, also, i tend to write a few things about my brother and how we used to get along but now he acts like he doesn't give a single crap.

Well, long story short, he's in medicine school and there, he met his girlfriend, but both will be very occupied next semester.
I noticed he was both saddened and worried when he couldn't go back earlier to see her (We're from other city than her and the school).
I chatted with his grilfriend and told her that everything would be fine and i would keep an eye on him (Just to give her the assurance), but in the end, my brother is not an ******* around girls.
I told him this and that i could help him in any way i could... and, guess what
He told me that he was never worried at all, and that everything was on my mind, SO... i told him that even if he ever feels down, i could listen to him, AND... He said something like "I'm never down in situations like this, i'm a grown man, it is you the one who upsets more often, you shold have grown up already". This comment was really getting on my nerves, so i said something like... "Well, i'm some stuff i can be more assertive, in some others you are" and his final coment was something like "That's the point, i'm better at everything", so i just decided to leave him talking.

Hell, i offer him my help just to remember how crappy he can be around those who he take for granted, even to worry about his relationship. His grilfriend is a really nice girl and it kinda worries me that onec he take her for granted (Something tells me he will unfourtunely), he will show his true self to her.

Thank you, have a nice day
Any insight people?

Hello NewCommer: You know... it's really between the two of them... for better or worse. My recommendation is... just stay out of it.

Maybe he has some issues that he's just not ready to deal with or talk about yet? Sometimes people can pretend they're doing fine or great when in reality they aren't. Other than that I would let them deal with their own relationship. He knows you're there for him and that should be enough.

I suppose leave them alone is for the better.
I believe there might be som issue somewhere, because not so long ago, he openly told me he felt like if my parents loved me more than him (They love us ewually). There are other similar situations around that one of my closest friends once told me, but i'm not pretty sure about them

Seems like something you should maybe talk about as a family or with your parents. Better to talk out the underlying issue. But if he's not ready, he's not ready.

My familly is a bit complicated, all of them are really "pacifist" and their interactions with the world tend to be minimal: My dad loves to stay at home and never sees anyone besides us (his familly), and i can't really talk about this with my mother because she excuses him a lot beause of his career. Another issue is my difference between them, i can't stay still so i tend to do a lot of things, which gets them on their nerves

Stay outta his relationship. Until he is ready to get help or even feels he needs it. It will only frustrate you, you need to take good self care of yourself.

Old saying .....You can take a horse to water... But can't make them drink.....

Good luck

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