[kid_of_bp_mom]

Posted on here about a year ago when my mom had a bad episode (she's bipolar.) Things have been okay for awhile, but last night, I had a headache and she started looking depressed and went into her room (she always gets upset when I mention my headaches cause she's "worried.") She came out after a while to tell me it had nothing to do w/ me, and that she was just tired, then went to bed (it was only 7pm.)

This morning, she woke me up and asked if I wanted breakfast, I said okay. Her tone was still weird but I figured she was feeling better cause she could go out now. However, she still looked super pissed after she got home; we were both sitting on the couch but she looked mad and didn't talk to me at all. I went into my room and heard her banging stuffs in the kitchen. Texted her so say sorry about mentioning my headache (always have to apologize when she's upset to get her out of her mood...) She replied that I think too much, that she's just sad cause she misses my brother (he's in a different country,) and that her body aches (claims aching every time she's upset.)

Dinner time - I took some leftover out from the fridge, left the container on the microwave and went to my room. Heard her helping me put the food onto a plate, she then came into my room and said I could just microwave it when I want to eat, I said okay and she left. Few seconds later, she opened my door and asked "did you hear what I said?" I said yes + I answered just now.

She has been in her room for the whole day now and hasn't eaten anything. I don't know what to do...

[IceCreamKid]

You are not responsible for your mother's moods. Is your mother getting treatment for her condition? At most you can encourage her to do so if she is not; but otherwise, lead your life as normally as you can.

[healingme4me]

I agree that you are not responsible for her mood. No sense in worrying if you have an effect on her moods, you didn't cause it. She was honest with you in telling you that it's not you, which is a positivity of her own level of awareness. Just give her space and carry on your own life detached and as unaffected as you possibly can. That would be a compassionate approach to honoring her.

"Interrogate your hidden assumptions."-Cornel West

[kid_of_bp_mom]

Originally Posted by IceCreamKid

You are not responsible for your mother's moods. Is your mother getting treatment for her condition? At most you can encourage her to do so if she is not; but otherwise, lead your life as normally as you can.

She thinks her mood is due to her neurological pains, and that she doesn't need help. My uncle (a neurologist) had told me that her pains are bad and they cause her to be bipolar/depressed, but she thinks she can stop those feelings w/ her willpower.

She's feeling better today

[kid_of_bp_mom]

Originally Posted by healingme4me

I agree that you are not responsible for her mood. No sense in worrying if you have an effect on her moods, you didn't cause it. She was honest with you in telling you that it's not you, which is a positivity of her own level of awareness. Just give her space and carry on your own life detached and as unaffected as you possibly can. That would be a compassionate approach to honoring her.

"Interrogate your hidden assumptions."-Cornel West

Yes at least she was willing to let me know I didn't upset her.
I will carry on, and I hope she can stay happy more often too