Neurotypicals vs the rest of us

I find it so strange and maybe not so strange at all...that the two most loving men I have been with were both diagnosed schizoaffective, in fact one had many more labels affixed to him. But when he held me, he just poured love and peace into me. So, as I meet other people, and talk to them and assuming they are neurotypicals, why is it that I see my severely mentally ill very disabled ex bf as so much better than any of them? I know I am romanticizing some of that relationship because it did go south eventually. It had to do more with the fact that I spent money on him because I knew he didn't have things (food?) but at the end he compulsively bought something knowing he didn't have the money for it and I finally refused to give him more ( already had sent him some ) and I broke things off with him. It took a year to get to that point.
Anyway...that whole thing about how someone makes you feel, how that is what people will remember about you? He made me feel like the most beautiful, lovely, intelligent wonderful person he had ever known. I felt so much love from him for such a long time. That...I miss. That...is something I wish I could find with someone else. who isn't terribly needy at the same time.
Do you think most people with mental illness feel things so much stronger than neurotypicals? I wonder that all the time.

Interesting question. I don't have an answer. I don't have MI (nothing formally diagnosed at least)yet I feel everything very strongly. I don't believe I feel anything less strong than those with mi.

Interesting that my husband who isn't neurotypical is the most "normal" of all men I've been with lol how ironic

As about love, my long term ex of 9 years loved ( and still does) me with the most intensity. Yet he was too unwell for me to go on with him. Substance abuse and self medicated depression etc often love isn't enough.

As about neediness men who loved me the most ( my alcoholic ex) and my current husband were also needy to a degree. My husbands neediness comes from abusive family of origin though not his MI.

You are raising interesting topics

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I don't like the word 'neurotypical' at all, but I agree with the fact that people with certain illnesses feel emotions much more strongly, but not only in a positive sense.

I use the word neurotypical as opposed to the word normal, which is a cycle on my mom's washing machine I really do hate the us VS them mentality, I think everyone has something, even those who might regard themselves as 'normal'.

I meant both positive and negative emotions as well. I have bipolar 1 and generalized anxiety but I also rate very high on empathy on the strengthsfinder test. As well as, identify myself strongly with being a Highly Sensitive Person. That has been true of me since I was a child. I'm sensitive not only emotionally but physically as well (allergy sensitivities). Any strong emotion can cause me distress, especially anger, whether I get angry or someone gets angry with me ( or in some cases if I am just exposed to it ). I will curl up in a ball and cry.

I developed thicker skin with age plus my profession requires me to remain strong but I am very sensitive person, so is my daughter and so many others who don't have mi. We are pretty typical people though ( I don't want to use word normal). I do control my emotions better than some other people, pretty much I am socially acceptable but I have very strong feelings both positive and negative

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