Cigarettes for Sex...

ok

*to tired to argue anymore*

Milly, no one was arguing with you. '

You started this thread with the rather startling post that you could trade sex for cigarettes and you didn't know what to do.

You got a lot of responses and I'm thinking that you didn't get the one you wanted.

Something is beneath the surface here.

Where is "down here"? I've never heard of a place where you could smoke before you are old enough to buy them. (legally, as in the legislature writing the law)

Your grammar started out fine at the beginning and then changed a lot in your last posts. Were you okay when you quit posting?

People respond here when someone posts something and they want a response. Frequently, maybe 50% of the time, you don't hear what you want to hear. It's kinda like "you don't always get what you want, but if you try real hard, you'll get what you need" (Rolling Stones)

I wish you well. Pat

The first people who "accepted me for who I am" were not good for me . . . It too me about 19 years to figure that out. All that wasted time. I really don't want to disclose more about this in a public forum. It

well it just seems like everyone is against him now because he made a mistake... down here is in australia... i guess maybe i dont know its so hard i just cant cope with any of this anymore... i dont want to do this anymore

I am sorry that you feel that way, Milly.

Milly next time you see him, give him the cost of the cigarettes, place the condom in an envelope and give it to him explaining you won't need it since you are faithful to one person (your girlfriend) , maybe he was testing you to see if he had a chance with you as more than a friend, he did get off on the wrong foot, but see what his reply will be

Post again when you can...sorry you didn't hear what you wanted to hear. Part of being supportive is give you the warning signals...

I just have to add ... that I would never do this to a woman...someone who does...may not be the first choice of someone to hang out with...

If you haven't asserted to him how this makes you feel (especially sense you are involved with someone)...and he doesn't very quickly apologize for his actions...it wasn't a mistake...it was a calculated move for sure...

I think Direction has some sound advice about how you can check out whether this was a mistake or a manipulation . . . Our purpose has been to look out for you, Milly, not to dump on your friend. What he did is not an itsy bitsy teeny weenie mistake, like forgetting to say "Thank you," but one that raises a lot of red flags about his character.

Please do not be discouraged, and keep coming back.

good posting, Direction.....

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thing is that he is the only person i can get cigarettes from though...

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I personally would tell him (No, show him) where he could stick his cigarettes.

milly, it boils down to this......healthy people don't make an offer like that to someone they respect. we're worried about him disrespecting you. and we're worried about you taking him up on the offer and then regretting it big time.

you have a girlfriend. enjoy this time.....don't worry about that guy. he will just find someone else to offer those cigarettes to.

he didn't just make a "mistake".......he violated a boundary that is yours...........xoxoxo pat

<font color="#000088">Milly, come on, seriously 17 years old! I can understand the being addicted to smoking. But IMO, I think you're too young to be having sex at all! Regardless of what it's for, condom or not, like one of the others said, condoms break. Are you ready to be a Mom at 17? Or are you already? I hope not, you're still so young. You still have more life to live before motherhood, that doesn't mean life stops at motherhood, but you're still a teenager. It's tough to be a teen-mother! Do you really think this guy would step up if you got pregnant for a cig.? And would it really be worth it to you! You could end up getting more than just a cigarette, but a baby to! Think about it, is it really worth the risk? I don't think so!
Treasure your teenage years, they're almost gone. Don't grow up too fast,you'll regret it! And this guy isn't really a true friend if he wants you to risk all that for a smoke!
The only true birth control is abstinance, and at your age,I think that would be the best birth control for you! Even when you are at an age where sex isn't that big of a deal, it's not right to do it for material gain. That's pretty much the same as prostitution, but instead of money, cigarettes! Prostitutes trade sex all the time for drugs instead of money, and Nicotine is a drug! So that guy, his request to you was basically trying to get you to turn a trick! NOT A FRIEND! PIMP! </font>

Milly,

Curious about where you are at with this situation. Would you mind updating us?

ABT