[DeanLee]

Hello everyone. I have, kinda been in a relationship lately. We are still just friends or best friends, but she had said she wants to be with me, just isn't ready for an actual relationship. We've been talking for about 6 month now, going to be exactly 6 month on the 4th of this month, we started talking in April 4th and I celebrate it with her. We get along great. But my problem is, earlier today, I sent her 25$ to support her, and help her get some cash because some one took money from her debit card and she had to cancel it. We were having a good conversation until she decided to be smart about something small. I told her i didn't appreciate it and how i felt about that. She got mad and said she needed a break. I let her cool off, then cheered her up, but now she started to act weird. (this isn't the first time) I was scared to death that she might be done with me. I tell myself and realize how much I feel about her, and I think i love her. (I haven't told her yet) We also talked about sex and what not, it lead to me telling her, I want her to be my only sex partner, and she tells me that I should not be selfish and let her be free and maybe have sex with another man occasionally, is that ok? Should I allow that? I mean i know the boundaries and i can't say anything now, but she wants me to take her virginity, and us to be in a relationship later on down the road, I don't want to even THINK about her ever touching another man in bed. Is that wrong? Or am I just selfish? What should I do?

[Michelea]

You guys want two totally opposite things. She wants sex with multiple partners, but no relationship. You want a loving relationship with only each other as partners. Saying that she wants a relationship "later on down the road" is a false promise, and will only cause you pain in the end.

I think you should follow what your gut is already trying to tell you.

[IceCreamKid]

If I read your post correctly, you are sending someone you met online money and this person is titillating you by claiming to be a virgin.

My advice is to find someone close to your own age with in your own hometown to date; and to consider counseling to help you realize your own self-worth and to clear up your confusion.

[HarrietBeecher]

This is definitely not the relationship you are looking for. Until she wants what you want, you will always be the one to get hurt. The longer you let this go on, the more hurtful it will become.
Wanting an exclusive relationship is not selfish. A lot of people want that. And wanting an open relationship isn't selfish. But the two are opposites, and not easily compatible.
I really don't think you should let this relationship go on any longer. There are a lot of girls who wants to be exclusive. You are emotionally investing into a relationship that will end up hurting you very deeply.

Best of luck with the tough decision you have to make.