[8thstreetbungalow]

i grew up alone basically and i just met someone and we click really well over the internet. We have yet to meet in person and i am being very cautious and careful. But things seem to be just simply going so good.

my questions are, what is a healthy relationship?
how do you go about building one?
what is my role in the picture?

[Michelea]

Think there are many possible answers to these questions, it depends on who is involved in the relationship and what they are looking for in a healthy relationship.

What do you think the answers to these questions are?

[8thstreetbungalow]

I say a healthy relationship shouldn't be toxic.
I suppose its built on respect,trust, honest and strong communication.
My role? No clue.

[Michelea]

Yes and yes.

Your role will be forever changing as a relationship grows and develops, as will hers. A relationship lasting years/decades goes thru many stages. Initial attraction, infatuation, learning about each other, knowing each other as well as you know yourself, living together, deciding who is has which responsibilities in a household, perhaps raising kids, good days/bad days, etc, etc.

For now, your roles are simply to meet and get to know each other...and see where that leads.

[eskielover]

First off take a good amount of time to REALLY get to know each other. Then....

If there is any internal conflict that you feel about the person listen to those red flags & dont just logic them away.

If you have financial differences they are critical. If a person has attitude issues thst bother you, they are critical. Values are critical. Differences are good but if they are never worked through & resolved they will become a problem.

Take time to really know the person & their the aspects of their personality. Use your logical mind wirh them not your emotional in analyzing the relationship.

Above all make sure in ANY relationship make sure that both people are capable of emotionally connecting (Im not talking about the connection of having sex)....that is realy a deep down connection at the soul level & that its not after awhile just a superficial connection & that things arent just progressing in the relationship because thats what is supposed to happen....it needs to be REAL.

[HarrietBeecher]

Honesty and honesty. Don't lie about anything and be as honest as possible about your feelings. if you feel something, even if it is irrational and petty, tell your partner as soon as possible..... don't brood on it...say it out loud and calmly....because things always sound better/rational in your head than it really is.