For anyone who'd been following my thread from before, about the guy I'd been seeing for 2 weeks (a month now) who wanted me to meet his family, we broke up. I broke up w/ him. But it was amicable. Just feeling sad, because I'm sensitive I guess. But yeah, when i first said it, and told him, I felt sad but relieved. I was scared too. I think because I DO want a boyfriend. And he was really...he fit a lot of good spots for me. But there were some things he would say in jest. That I didn't understand. I misunderstood him a lot and it made me feel like a freak. I was more serious than he was. Idk. I was just sick of feeling stressed and insecure. I think we were not compatible in very important ways to me.

It does sound like you had reason to be concerned. Having someone just get you, and you them and all things jiving and meshing and making you feel comfortable are important to many. I'm sorry you are feeling sensitive about it and understand. I once broke up with a guy who I worried for years I'd made the wrong decision. I loved everything about him but I did not feel a secure future with him (he was a very talented but struggling musician/singer songwriter and guitarist). But I went with my gut and it turned out for the best. You may end up getting back together someday if you stay friends.....anything is possible. I hope you do find someone who makes your heart sing.

[~Christina]

It's good you realized in just a matter of weeks that it wasn't a good fit for you instead of months into the relationship.

You will find someone new ❤️

[xRavenx]

Originally Posted by starrysky

For anyone who'd been following my thread from before, about the guy I'd been seeing for 2 weeks (a month now) who wanted me to meet his family, we broke up. I broke up w/ him. But it was amicable. Just feeling sad, because I'm sensitive I guess. But yeah, when i first said it, and told him, I felt sad but relieved. I was scared too. I think because I DO want a boyfriend. And he was really...he fit a lot of good spots for me. But there were some things he would say in jest. That I didn't understand. I misunderstood him a lot and it made me feel like a freak. I was more serious than he was. Idk. I was just sick of feeling stressed and insecure. I think we were not compatible in very important ways to me.

So sorry you are struggling with this. Breakups suck, but can lead to much better things. I tend to second guess myself when it comes to break ups, but please keep in mind the reasons why you did and the potential issues and patterns that did not jive with you that could have continued if you stayed....as well as not the right timing, if that was part of the issue too.

I believe most people have their good points, and any connection that we ever had with that person can make us ambivalent and worry if we made the right decision. Also, loneliness and stress can make us have doubts in our decision. However, something told you that you aren't compatible, so trust your gut. I'm sure there's someone out there that you will click even better with.

Thank you so much for the support everyone!!!

xRavenx, i very much appreciate what you said. I found myself second guessing, because I missed him.

And he was already back on OkCupid, I found out. He even changed his picture to a picture that I took of him. What a **** head.

Starrysky, you sound like you are making a sound decision that is right for you, it can't have been easy - kudos to you.

You will find someone better suited to you, you are a lovely thoughtful person I can tell that from your posts.

[divine1966]

Good for you not dragging it. It's wise to not drag it and end it early on. I remember with my ex bf I knew in about 3 months that it's probably wise to leave now. Then I feel guilty so I ended up not leaving and stayed for almost 9 years. I don't regret per se as we loved each other but I had to leave then when I didn't listen to my guts. Good for you!