[Balance100]

Hey good day im relatively new here and i really need some help........I am in a relationship for almost 1 year now and i get this feeling like my girlfriend is bored of me i have been sacrificing sooooo much for her like my home when she had no place to stay we created alot of memories when she was in school i made lunch for her and gave her something i never did and she graduated and she kinda like have interest in other things that's how i feel plus i sacrificed almost my entire salary for her but she is not a money girl she told me and must save for the future.She is an amazing person but her friend always misleading her and with the problems at her her aunt showing her friend more attention than her niece because the friend lives there a female ofc! and its like all of it thrown on me she eventually changed and cheated on me once she kissed this guy and hickeys were on her neck and when i confronted she confessed to me and she say when the guy wanted more she stopped and think abt me and say what have i done wrong to deserve this? then she stopped and was crying all night i forgave her because we are all imperfect human beings but the resentment is still there she begged for my forgiveness she was on her knees in public however im still fighting this issue im always thinking she cheating and when i confronted her she say i have to trust her its gonna drive her insane she say she promise me she wont go back there in that past again but i always think its gonna happen but when i stressed on it i tend to get nose bleeds and i dont eat like right now i only eating 1 time a day its been happening for 1 month now please help me advice me please because i feel im too attached too cause i cant survive nor do anything without her

[Skeezyks]

Hello Balance100: I see you posted this Thread back on September 3. I'm sorry you're only now being greeted! Welcome to PsychCentral… from the Skeezyks! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

I don't know as I have anything particularly useful to offer you in terms of your predicament. I understand how you feel. But, what's done is done. Your girlfriend can't take back what she did. From what you wrote, it sounds as though she does really regret it. I think all you can do is to take her at her word that it will never happen again, unless or until, you get evidence to the fact that it has happened again. If that should occur, then perhaps you will have to consider if this young woman is worth the time & resources you have given to her. Sometimes we simply have to live-&-learn, as the saying goes. I will just mention that I didn't understand the part about your girlfriend's aunt & niece. So I can't comment with regard to that. Perhaps it may help you to sort all of this out in your thoughts if you continue posting, here on PC, with regard to your concerns.

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[ComfortablyNumb5]

I think you saying "I can't survive without her" speaks volumes. It sounds like you've become very codependent in this relationship and I get that because I'm the same way. My bf tried to leave me when I did something really bad last month and I begged him to stay because he's "my life". Now I know that's not a healthy way to think but i did this. I made him my life and I do depend on him now that I'm not working. I think you deserve better than to be cheated on and maybe you need a break for your own mental health. It's important to keep a sense of independence throughout life though I get this may be hard for people like us. I also have abandonment issues that play into me begging him not to leave. You deserve someone who is your equal, not your whole existence.