Not Making Enough Time for Me Or Showing He's Interested

People who are working can't reply because they are busy, that seems reasonable to me.

I am not even allowed my phone at work, that's because I have to work, I'm on the company time not my own. Seems reasonable to me.

That's what work is like for many people.

I used to text a man while he was at work. I was undiagnosed bipolar at the time, and I was waaaaay too talkative for him.

I didn't realize how much it bothered him.

These people are strangers. It's not like getting upset your mother or husband or kids or aunt etc don't reply for long. I tend to worry if people are all right. But those are people I am close to not strangers

That's how online dating sites work. They don't owe you a reply, just as you don't owe anyone a reply. If they aren't interested then they can just stop without telling you anything.

They might seem like your ideal man, but that doesn't mean you are their ideal woman. Who knows what causes them to go "ummm no not replying anymore" and you'll never know because they have no obligation to tell you - and their reasons don't necessarily mean that there is anything wrong with you. They just don't think you will be compatible.

My online presence probably looks like I'm online and available tons more than I am. I don't trust the clocks at school so I often check my phone, will grab it to use as a timer, use it for photos with the kids, as a calculator, etc. But it doesn't mean that I will reply to messages, even if it shows that I've read them - I could have very well left the chat open and leave it to do whatever I needed. I may then even forget that I'd had a message.

Something a lot of people forget is that online messaging never really had a typical "end" to the conversation like you would have in a phone call. Conversations just tend to drop off, and then may start up again later. It can be an annoying part of the digital age, but nonetheless it's part of it now.

Also, help with relationships and interactions with others is one of the absolutely biggest reasons that people go to therapy.

I grew up before Internet, so we only had phones. I was taught:
1. Let the males do the pursuing (for the most part this is still true)
2. Don't talk on the phone for more than ten minutes. Instead make a date to see each other in person.

I know feminists are going to jump all over me about letting the men pursue, but every time I ever tried 'chasing' a male, it never worked out and I embarrassed myself. When a guy likes, he calls. It's just that simple.

You say you talked to them for a long time and then the next day they don't write back. It is possible to run out of things to say. Things get boring after you've already said too much. Don't have such long conversations online or on the phone.

Also, it's not polite to intrude on people during the work day. If it's not important, don't even contact people for small talk while they're supposed to be working. Aren't you working, too? If you have a real relationship, there's nothing wrong with a quick 'thinking of you' kind of thing, but mostly, just let them concentrate on work.

It seems that this thread has run it's course.

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