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Sep 17, 2016, 06:27 AM
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My boyfriend said some hurtful things last night. How can I get over being hurt? Today is my birthday & I'm a bit depressed due to things he said.
What he said didn't have to do with my birthday. He's not into birthdays and he knows I am due to my family being into birthdays. My family makes a big deal over them. What should I do if he doesn't acknowledge my birthday? |
 12AM, Anonymous37971, Anonymous59898, Bill3, Crazy Hitch, xRavenx, Yours_Truly
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#2
Sep 17, 2016, 07:14 AM
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I told him he hurt my feelings saying that he didn't apologize. I want to get over being hurt especially since it's my birthday. I want to enjoy my day.
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| Bill3, Crazy Hitch, Yours_Truly
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#3
Sep 17, 2016, 07:31 AM
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Happy Birthday C2015!
I hope that you do enjoy your day.  Quote:
If he does not acknowledge your birthday, then it would seem that you are in a relationship with someone who is completely at variance with something that is really important to you. You could ask yourself what your birthday is going to be like when, every year, your birthday is ignored or minimized by your partner. You could ask yourself if this is the future that you want for yourself. |
 Crazy Hitch
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#4
Sep 17, 2016, 07:56 AM
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Not apologizing is a red flag. If he ignores your feelings, this isn't a good relationship
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| Bill3
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#5
Sep 17, 2016, 09:26 AM
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Is this the same man who says he doesn't love you but loves his ex? I think not acknowledging birthdays is the least of the issues here. I think you know what you need to do.
Happy birthday and enjoy it without this drama. Who needs this dude |
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#6
Sep 17, 2016, 09:27 AM
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Happy Birthday C2015!
 I'm so sorry your boyfriend feels this way. It sounds like the two of you need to have a good talk so you can let him know how this makes you feel. |
| Crazy Hitch
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#7
Sep 18, 2016, 01:36 AM
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I hope you had a good birthday C2015
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#8
Sep 18, 2016, 02:01 AM
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Happy birthday. Our family doesn't do birthdays since everyone died of cancer, so while I can relate to your boyfriend's ambivalence towards birthdays in general, he should be more sensitive to your feelings and make an effort to please you, regardless. If he's consistently hurtful, it's incumbent upon you to kick him to the curb.
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| Bill3, Crazy Hitch
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#9
Sep 18, 2016, 03:03 AM
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Happy Birthday
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#10
Sep 18, 2016, 03:16 AM
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Birthdays are a nice custom to celebrate someone you care about having been born. No shame in enjoying them. Sorry that your boyfriend was hurtful.
 Happy belated birthday.
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In the twilight of life, God will not judge us on our earthly possessions and human successes, but on how well we have loved. + John of the Cross 
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| Crazy Hitch
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#11
Sep 18, 2016, 03:46 AM
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| divine1966, Trippin2.0
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#12
Sep 19, 2016, 09:59 PM
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Happy Belated Birthday. ((HUGS)) Sorry about what you are going through. Even if your boyfriend is not into birthdays, he is being insensitive since he should care about your own feelings....he failed to do that in this situation. It's also alarming that he did not apologize. Have there been other situations where he has demonstrated insensitive behavior and no apology? Even if this is the first time he acted that way, definitely do not ignore this warning sign. Hopefully he'll come to his senses, apologize, and make a change. If he is not willing to do that, then you have to ask yourself if you want to be in a relationship with someone who is not respecting your feelings.
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