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Sep 22, 2016, 10:48 PM
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In the past I thought it could be because of a lack of experience, but lately I have been hanging around more girls (at work mostly) but things are not getting better. I find that I just never have anything to say. What ends up happening is that I frantically search for something to say and say something stupid or weird. Either that or I stay quiet and come off as boring. Tomorrow I am going to run into the girl at the gym who added me on facebook, and I will end up talking to her. I desperately need last minute advice on how to not mess this up. What do I do if nothing comes to mind? Do I just not keep quiet and not converse with her? How can I come up with things to say without being awkward or stupid?
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Sep 22, 2016, 10:58 PM
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Why not talk about what movies look good at the theaters .... That could lead to you saying.... Hey ! I have been wanting to see that too, wanna go with ?
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Sep 23, 2016, 07:47 AM
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You can always ask questions about interests and go from there. What else do you do with your life, what are your interests? Besides going to the gym and your issues that you talk about here, you've never told us about what you enjoy.
For small talk: weather, politics (not always small talk that's for sure!), celebrity gossip, local happenings, news, movies, music, tv shows, sports... You don't even have to like them: I can talk about celebrity gossip even though it is not my thing. But I'm honest in my opinions and won't pretend to enjoy it, but it will often lead into something else such as why I don't like it, or about why the other person does. For myself, if I'm lost I will talk about things I know stuff about - books, travel, teaching, movies, tv, the news, local happenings. Sharing my own interests can prompt them to share what we have in common or different contrasts. There's also always the very simply questions such as how are you, what have you been up to lately, how are things going with X, what do you have planned for the weekend, etc
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Sep 24, 2016, 01:59 AM
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It actually went pretty well.
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Sep 24, 2016, 04:17 AM
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Awe!tell us more!!!!
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Sep 24, 2016, 07:38 AM
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Great! What sort of topics did you chat about?
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"The time has come, the Walrus said, to talk of many things. Of shoes, of ships, of sealing wax, of cabbages, of kings! Of why the sea is boiling hot, of whether pigs have wings..." "I have a problem with low self-esteem. Which is really ridiculous when you consider how amazing I am. |
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Sep 27, 2016, 10:19 PM
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Sorry for the late reply. It was just some quick casual chit chat, about her work and things like that. I used to see this girl working all the time and she would always be really friendly and it seemed to me like she might be interested but I wasn't sure. Then I stopped seeing her for a while and recently I started seeing her again occasionally. I decided to approach her on my way out one night and start a conversation. She ended up giving me her facebook name and asking me to add her. I was pretty baffled because this is one of those really gorgeous girls who can get any guy she wants.
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#8
Sep 27, 2016, 11:55 PM
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Seems promising, but still, it could be that she's just friendly tough.
Either way, it's either an appearently a good friend or might become something more. Good luck and congratulations! |
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