[Brokenmask94]

I'm tired of people judging and telling me that I'm a terrible person without them really knowing me or the whole story of what goes on my life. I'm tired of people calling me trash because I grow up in a trailer park and my mom got pregnant with me when she was sixteen by my then thirty year old dad. I'm tired of people assuming that I worship the devil just because of the fact I listen mainly to metal and heavy metal music. I'm also sick of people calling me an abusive sociopath even though I've never abused my wife or my past girlfriend that people love to bring up and I've also never been diagnosed as a sociopath but people still love to call me that. I'm not perfect but I don't deserve to be treated like this I'm just tired of it all.

[Alice007]

What people are you talking about? Do they really matter to you?
Do you have any friends who appreciate you and don't judge your life based on the facts you couldn't control?

[Brokenmask94]

Originally Posted by Alice007

What people are you talking about? Do they really matter to you?
Do you have any friends who appreciate you and don't judge your life based on the facts you couldn't control?

They are people who use to be my friends and people who are my wife's friends and some of them are just strangers really who can't mind their own business and they don't really matter to me but it's annoy that I'm constantly put into a positions that feel like I need to defend my self from the trash that is said about me and I do have some really good friends but I try to leave them out of the drama.

[eskielover]

How do you get into places where this happens? What are these constant positions & why are you constantly ending up there? Your wife doesn't stand up for you with her friends? Just trying to get a better picture of what is really going on.

[Sunflower123]

I’m sorry you are experiencing this. It sounds aggravating and disheartening. Unfortunately there is no shortage of judgemental people in the world. Can you limit your exposure to these people or tune them out? You and your girlfriend know you aren’t trash or a sociopath. That’s what matters.

[Brokenmask94]

Originally Posted by eskielover

How do you get into places where this happens? What are these constant positions & why are you constantly ending up there? Your wife doesn't stand up for you with her friends? Just trying to get a better picture of what is really going on.

I'm in theses positions because I have people who will bring this up to me when at the mall or some other place in public and when this happens I feel like I need to defend my self from the lies that they are trying to spread in public or I will have people email about this stuff and I had one person write me letter by snail mail. I have people trying to spread lies about me on Facebook and or places online and I feel like I need to explain my self when this happens. My wife does try to stand up for me but she can only do so much.

[Brokenmask94]

Originally Posted by Jennifer 1967

I’m sorry you are experiencing this. It sounds aggravating and disheartening. Unfortunately there is no shortage of judgemental people in the world. Can you limit your exposure to these people or tune them out? You and your girlfriend know you aren’t trash or a sociopath. That’s what matters.

I can try to do that but I don't know how effective that will be.

[All Is Revealed]

Originally Posted by Brokenmask94

I can try to do that but I don't know how effective that will be.

It appears that you have too many toxic people in your life. Your life has become polluted by these toxic people. Time to clean house. Start by deactivating all social media. Its obvious Facebook is making your life worse.
Change email addresses if necessary. Discard any correspondence from anyone you wish not to speak.

You have the right to ignore everyone and anyone that annoys you. It is your life. You choose who is in it.

[Brokenmask94]

Originally Posted by All Is Revealed

It appears that you have too many toxic people in your life. Your life has become polluted by these toxic people. Time to clean house. Start by deactivating all social media. Its obvious Facebook is making your life worse.
Change email addresses if necessary. Discard any correspondence from anyone you wish not to speak.

You have the right to ignore everyone and anyone that annoys you. It is your life. You choose who is in it.

I'm going to take your advice and I'm going to start getting rid of these toxic people in my life and I'm going to quit social media and I'm going change my email address and I will ignore anyone who tries to correspond with me and I'm going to move on from this.

[eskielover]

Thats the best way to handle your situation. No contact will clear them out & they wont talk about you if you arent touching their life.

Cleaning house is the best way. In my case I cleaned my H & his family out if my life (it was mutual) but the peace it brings is awesome

[All Is Revealed]

Originally Posted by eskielover

Thats the best way to handle your situation. No contact will clear them out & they wont talk about you if you arent touching their life.

Cleaning house is the best way. In my case I cleaned my H & his family out if my life (it was mutual) but the peace it brings is awesome

I know the feeling. Getting rid of the clutter (toxic people) allows you to sit back and relax. And not have to worry about the mess the next day.

[eskielover]

And not have to worry about the mess the next day.

lol he is still creating messes that I have to clean up but at least I dont have to be anywhere near him or deal with him directly. I just have to deal with the people he created the mess with & they honestly feel sorry for my situation & are actually VERY HELPFUL. Such a different side of people I am seeing now. They were mean & unhelpful when I hadnt physically left him. Now they understand what is going on they offer information & ideas & suggestions & some even help when they can.

The saying "Im just TIRED of it all" was my mantra for the 33 years I was living in the marriage. After leaving, the tiredness was replaced with thankfulness for everyone who has been such a great help in my life since then. I still go through rough times when one thing hits after another but the good now outweighs the bad & I KNOW the tiredness will be gone in the near future.