[YOLO Lady]

I had a great first date with a really nice man last night. We met on OKCupid where we matched at 94%, we have a ton in common and on our one telephone call the conversation flowed very easily. We sat at the bar at a pretty nice restaurant and he bought me dinner. We chatted non-stop for more than 2 hours then we left and he walked me to my car. We were standing at my car and he asked if he could kiss me good-night and I said sure, with a smile. He puts his arms around me, leans in for a kiss and immediately sticks his tongue in my mouth! I mean our lips touched for an instant and there was his tongue? Who does this? So I kind of gave him a little tongue back and he stops the kiss, jumps backwards and said, let's talk tomorrow and then he rushes off and is gone!

I get home, send him a text thanking him for a great time and he replies, "Sorry I was a little too aggressive with the good night." I reply, "No Worries!" since i really like him and chalk that crazy kiss up to him being nervous and recently divorced and somewhat new to the dating scene. (We are both middle aged, so not kids)

Today, I do NOT hear from him at all. Every single day and night for the past week he's been texting me to say hello and check in etc... so this is super strange not to hear from him. Late morning, I decide to send him a text asking if he'd like to watch the NFL football game tomorrow since we are both huge fans...." It's 8 hours later and I still have not heard back and have made other plans, but I just don't understand what could have happened and why all of sudden I'm not hearing from him! He specifically said, "let's talk tomorrow"

I was going to post this in the women's forum but would love to hear from some men as well. Would love to hear anyone's opinion on what they think spooked this guy or why he's not contacting me.

Thanks!

[TishaBuv]

Maybe he's embarrassed that he gave you that weird kiss and that's why he isn't calling.

I once went on a first date to see the movie Ghost (when it first came out). The guy cried in the movie and I didnt. It got back to me he was so embarrassed that he couldn't face me again.

[Molinit]

Perhaps he had another OKCupid meetup today?

[Bill3]

It's 8 hours later and I still have not heard back and have made other plans

Good job making other plans!

He didn't hold the car door for you or wave good bye or anything like that, he just suddenly rushed off? In that case, I am wondering if he might have been startled by your tongue, and perhaps a bit taken aback.

[Crazy Hitch]

When I went with my bf on our second date - he asked if he could kiss me ... and I kinda expected his tongue tbh. Different strokes for different folks I guess. Maybe you came across as physically taken aback without realising it and he picked up on it.