Hey guys! I'll get straight to the point... There's a multiplayer computer game that i play. This is where i met "G" We became friends on their and i enjoyed talking to him. From the begining he was and is super kind and sweet. I began to open up to him and i told him about my problems. SI depression emotional and some physical abuse and just so many of my problems... I opened up and spilled my heart out to him. He was there for me when i felt like no one else ever was. Also i found out that he has a lot of problems too his parents divorcing for one... We help heal each other
So over time i gave him my email and we've been chatting through that... however ill now get to the point....
It is soooo complicated. First off im 15 and he told me after awhile that hes in love with ME. Second ive never met him in person, well because also he lives in a different COUNTRY. He also doesnt know yet what i look like but he said he doesnt really care because im kind and good inside. He is the nicest most caring person ive ever known he also said that when we get older he wouldnt mind marrying me... and that i mean so much to him. BTW my parents would KILL me if they found out i was talking to a "stranger". He is an amazing person and i feel like even though there are so many complications God brought him into my life because He knew i was struggling and wanted to show me there was some one out there who cared about me more than i could have ever known... Also i feel like i "know" even though ive never met him face to face. And yeah i know it could be dangerous because he could "be out to kidnap me" But he is different than other guys. He really only wants someone who understands him and loves him for who he is.
I just wanted to say all this because yeah i feel like i love him but it will be hard... Any thoughts opinions? Btw i know your thinking the age difference but my sister is married to a guy who is nearly 9 years older than her and they love each other.
Thank you for taking the time to read this any comments would be most welcomed

[Artchic528]

Okay, first red flag here is that he's claiming to be 23 years old, which is way to old for your 15 year old self to even consider dating. Second red flag is that he proclaimed his love for you without you two knowing what each other looks like, nor even having met face to face. Third red flag is that he's not even living in the same country as you. I'm sorry, but this all sounds so very dangerous it's not even funny. I don't want to scare you, but this situation is exactly how many of those "girl is lured by online predator and killed" situations all start out.

It all begins with a young girl who finds herself depressed, isolated and feels that no one really gets her anymore. This leaves her in a pretty vulnerable state. She recedes to her room and finds solace in some online game or interaction like a forum. This is where the predators are lurking, waiting to take advantage by listening to the girl, letting her essentially pour her heart out to them. This deepens the girl's trust in them, and they begin to feel comfortable doing pretty much anything the guy wants because they are "friends" now. The guy then begin suggesting that the two of them take their friendship to the "next level", and seeing as the girl feels so very comfortable for the first time in what seems like forever with someone, who seemingly "gets them", they agree. That's where the danger really escalates. The guy pressures the girl into taking pictures, videos, all increasingly more provocative and suggestive in nature. Then the guy, hopped up on his success, asks the girl about meeting up, possibly running away with them to start a new life. And the girl is never seen or heard from again as a living person. I'll leave the rest up to your imagination.

Bottom line is, he can promise you the world and the moon, but that's just all talk and show to lure you into a false sense of security and out of the security of your home. You're parents are very much right for how they would react, and you also know this is a bad situation through this perception. He's not "different" or "just out to find someone who really understand him". These are all just methods online predators use to gain their victims' trust. I'm going to bet he's used these lines on many MANY girls of your age before.

I'm sorry, but at 15 you shouldn't be talking about having a relationship with such an older man, one you've never met, nor have solid evidence that he is who he claims. For all you know, he's a very dark and very unhealthy 46 year old man fishing on your game for girls exactly like yourself to have his way with.

And another thing, I don't know what country you live in, but most have legal ages of consent for such relationships, and these fall along the lines of 16-18 years of age. You're 15, which is too young to have anything to do with a man of 23, IF that is this man's real age at all.

Be careful and don't fall for this man's smooth words and supposed charm.

Thank you it made me see a lot deeper and dont worry i will be careful. Also i know what he looks like. Also it could be the other way around for all he knows i could be a 50 yr old male trafficker.

[Artchic528]

Pictures are readily found on the internet, just keep that in mind.

[Crazy Hitch]

The internet sure is a global network; bringing people together that we'd never imagine we'd interact with IRL. Some relationships can be good; others not so good.

You have a degree of responsibility entrusted to you by your folks. I think you need to keep your relationship with "G" above board. No hanky panky swapping nudies over the internet or sexting / skyping.

If you're able to maintain a solid friendship and he supports you; great.

But he does need to stop that marriage talk .... that's kinda creepy.

[MickeyCheeky]

Yeah, you need to be very careful.. he's too old for you and he may as well be lying. Don't give hom ANY personal information of yours, ok?

[Bill3]

Btw i know your thinking the age difference but my sister is married to a guy who is nearly 9 years older than her and they love each other.

How old is your sister?

I think that many of us would agree that a relationship between, say, a 31-year-old and a 23-year-old could be appropriate. At those ages, both parties are in a similar stages of life: completed schooling and setting out into the working world. At your age, though, you are still growing up, forming, developing, maturing, and in school. You are in a far different stage of life that a 23-year-old is, and of course a 15-year-old is not in a position to be speaking of marriage.

Originally Posted by Crazy Hitch

The internet sure is a global network; bringing people together that we'd never imagine we'd interact with IRL. Some relationships can be good; others not so good.

You have a degree of responsibility entrusted to you by your folks. I think you need to keep your relationship with "G" above board. No hanky panky swapping nudies over the internet or sexting / skyping.

If you're able to maintain a solid friendship and he supports you; great.

But he does need to stop that marriage talk .... that's kinda creepy.

Eww gross i would never swap nude pics or sext him. He said its way to early to think about marriage and im way to young right now also ill be careful of course. Thank you

Originally Posted by Bill3

How old is your sister?

I think that many of us would agree that a relationship between, say, a 31-year-old and a 23-year-old could be appropriate. At those ages, both parties are in a similar stages of life: completed schooling and setting out into the working world. At your age, though, you are still growing up, forming, developing, maturing, and in school. You are in a far different stage of life that a 23-year-old is, and of course a 15-year-old is not in a position to be speaking of marriage.

Im not saying i want to get married NOW but just maybe when im older (like in my 20s) Thanks for the post

[Delicious]

Hmm... since you're 15 I'd suggest keeping everything strictly platonic. It's lovely to find someone who you feel like you can tell everything, even if you don't know them, but you can't let this cloud your judgement.

Think of this; if one of your friends was talking to someone 8 years older than her, never met him, and he's asking her to marry him, what would you think? I know "age is just a number" but safety first, no questions asked.

I have many friends I've met online, even fell "in love" with one, but keeping in mind what I said before, I made all the right questions and found out he was just trying to do something bad.

We aren't telling you to stop talking to him, but never reveal any information about yourself, the slightest bit can get you into trouble, and none of us want that for you.

IMHO, not a single person in the world can decide to marry someone they've never met, even if they've been talking for years. I mean, if you've never met, how can you be certain that he won't have attitudes or act in ways that you're simply not ok with?

Just be careful, we want you safe

Originally Posted by Delicious

Hmm... since you're 15 I'd suggest keeping everything strictly platonic. It's lovely to find someone who you feel like you can tell everything, even if you don't know them, but you can't let this cloud your judgement.

Think of this; if one of your friends was talking to someone 8 years older than her, never met him, and he's asking her to marry him, what would you think? I know "age is just a number" but safety first, no questions asked.

I have many friends I've met online, even fell "in love" with one, but keeping in mind what I said before, I made all the right questions and found out he was just trying to do something bad.

We aren't telling you to stop talking to him, but never reveal any information about yourself, the slightest bit can get you into trouble, and none of us want that for you.

IMHO, not a single person in the world can decide to marry someone they've never met, even if they've been talking for years. I mean, if you've never met, how can you be certain that he won't have attitudes or act in ways that you're simply not ok with?

Just be careful, we want you safe

Thank you so much! And yeah i would be worried for the safety of my friend if it was the other way around...
But also do you mean personal information by like where i live?
Thanks so much for being so caring

[Delicious]

Originally Posted by DaX15

Thank you so much! And yeah i would be worried for the safety of my friend if it was the other way around...
But also do you mean personal information by like where i live?
Thanks so much for being so caring

Where you live, your full name, phone number, your school, your church (if you go), places you go to frequently, information about your parents... all that kind of information is something you shouldn't share with people online.

If he starts asking for this kind of information, that's a huge red flag.

If you need anything we'll be right here