[aaapz]

Hello everyone. I'm new to this site, so forgive me if I put this post where it doesnt belong or anything. So, I came here because im having trouble with a relationship. And its not a romantic one. Let me start from the beginning.

Let me just say im 15. A week ago, I was at a party. There was alcohol there, but I really dont drink, so I had a glass of coke most of the time. Then I see this girl come in. We're in the same class at school, and I have feelings for her. We're not really big friends, as we only text every once in a while. She came in, and later on I saw her making out with her boyfriend. I got really mad, and started drinking. Eventually I couldnt get up and started throwing up in the bathroom. My best friend had to carry me out and take me home. When I woke up the next morning, I saw a picture online of me bending over the toilet. She was the only one who had it, and promised not to send it to anyone. She said someone else sent it, but im not really sure she was telling the truth.

Earlier today, I started texting her and talking about nonsense. Then, as we have a school event tomorrow, I texted the group chat our classroom has to ask about the time. I guess I was in a bit of a bad mood as my day had been bad, so when she answered I answered her back sarcastically and she got mad. I started insulting her back and sent an embarrassing screenshot of one of her texts to the group chat, where everyone could see. She answered by sending the picture of me throwing up, and texting me calling me a disguting idiot who has no real friends. I texted her back saying sorry but she ignored my text, and is online right now. We have school tomorrow and im really worried about what could happen if I have to talk to her.

She has no idea I like her, so please help me with this, I really enjoy talking to her and really dont want this sort of relationship to end because of a picture.

[Crazy Hitch]

Oh dear. That's quite a situation you have found yourself in.

Going to the first part about the picture and not being sure if she put it online or not; you don't really have proof. If you were drunk enough to be puking in a toilet; you wouldn't have been totally aware of everything and anyone could have taken the situation. Either way - completely uncool it landed up online and I'm sorry about that.

You need to be careful of how you interact with her. Being sarcastic; regardless of whether or not you had a bad day; will get her back up. Remember - you have no proof she put the pic of you online - so posting an embarrassing screenshot - you may have a lot to answer for tomorrow at school - not just to her - but (a) those who will be repulsed by what you did and (b) her friends and (c) her boyfriend. Sorry to throw that out there; but you've made a complex situation even worse and I think that you need to be aware of that.

What I want to say is this:

You seem to take too little responsibility for your actions.

You got blind drunk because she was with her boyfriend.

Then proceeded to puke in the bathroom.

(put aside the fact that it was posted online - that's a separate issue to you taking responsibility for your actions)

I'm not altogether surprised she's ignored your apology. You crossed the line.

You'll have to give her time and see what happens. Not everyone will be ready to forgive your actions - but if you had a solid relationship prior to this nonsense happening - perhaps there is a chance for the two of you to resume a platonic relationship. I know you like her - but I don't believe at this stage of the game she'd come close to reciprocating your feelings.

[Skeezyks]

Hello aaapz: I'm sorry but my only suggestion here is learn from this, put it behind you & move on. Don't text this person anymore. Just let it go. Unless you do, it's all only likely to become more complicated from here.

I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral… from the Skeezyks! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

PsychCentral is a great place to get information as well as support for mental health issues. There are many knowledgeable & caring members here. The more you post, & reply to other members’ posts, the more a part of the community you will become. Plus there are social groups you can join & chat rooms where you’ll be able to connect with other PC members in real time (once your first 5 posts have been reviewed & approved.) Lots of great stuff! So please keep posting!