[Mapper]

H gets home last night at his usual time. He seems upbeat, gives me a kiss. I ask how his day was and he said it was fine, albeit a little slow. I was watching a show on tv when he walked in and no less than 5 minutes after he walked in there’s a scene in the show where the husband and wife have a big argument and he says to me “I bet you wish we’d fight like that to get rid of all that boredom in your life”. What? Where did that come from? Even if he was trying to be funny, it’s a very strange thing to say. He goes and takes a bath, then goes and sits at his computer and I yell that dinner is ready and I barely get that out of my mouth before I get a very loud, snide “Oookay!”. He comes out and he’s wearing his slippers with a grippy bottom and then starts doing short little steps, trying to make them squeak because there’s apparently a little water on the floor. He intentionally does this annoyingly for like 20 seconds and I say “Okay that’s enough!” He goes “Oh what, does that bother you?” He knows damn well it does! Then he goes “Yeah I like to do that at work when it’s wet and say to John (his coworker) “Don’t you wish you could do this?” because he has a gimpy leg and can’t do that. That is very childish and even somewhat cruel! Then we eat dinner and watch a little more tv. The cats climb up on our laps and he says to the cat something to the effect of “Yes you’re cute, but you are annoying when you do that, just like Mapper”. Okay that was not nice and plus he used my actual name when he usually calls me Honey or Sweetie. I say sort of kidding “Oh there’s no one here by that name. They (the cats) know me as Mom”. He goes “No they know…” and then proceeds to mime me opening the can of cat food and putting it into their bowls, basically saying the cats don’t like me per se, they just like that I feed them. What the hell is his issue?! At this point I’m done with him. He went back to his computer and I planned on watching more of my show, but he’s made me feel like crap so I just turn off everything and go to bed. I tell him I’m going to bed and he goes “It’s only 8:30!” I say “Yup”. He goes “Did you not sleep well last night” and I say “Yeah something like that”. Then he comes to bed like 30 minutes later when he’s usually up until 11 or so. It wakes me up when he comes in the room and I hear him doing his pre bedtime ritual and I say “Oh you’re coming to bed already?” He goes “No”. Yet he precedes to climb into bed and turn off the light and I say “Yes you are coming to bed” and he snidely goes “What? No I’m not, you must be dreaming”.

What the hell was his issue last night? He said work was fine and he always tells me when it's not and I can always tell his mood from the moment he walks in the door. He comes home seemingly perfectly fine, nothing about what I’m doing is anything different than usual, and within 5 minutes just goes all aloof and snide.

[gayleggg]

I don't know but it sounds like he had a bad day even if he said he didn't. But acting out of character would indicate there was a problem somewhere.

[Mapper]

He'll do this quite a bit. Have a week where he's totally lovey with me and I can do no wrong and he's in a great mood and then it's like a switch flips and the next day he's flippant, snide, nonchalant, doesn't give a damn if I'm there or not.

[~Christina]

You have made many many posts about how dysfunctional your marriage is and how he treats you so terrible..

Marriage counseling?

What on earth keeps you with him ? Does he have any redeeming qualities?

[Mapper]

Oh sure, he can be funny and spontaneous and he does love me. He thinks everything is roses between us, but he acts like a teenager half the time who doesn't want to go to work, doesn't want any responsibilities.

I feel the same as Christina.

If you read your posts (and I get that we're not likely to say how fabulous our relationships are) they read as if you both are just trying to push each others buttons.

Small things are getting on your nerves....

[Molinit]

Originally Posted by Mapper

Oh sure, he can be funny and spontaneous and he does love me. He thinks everything is roses between us, but he acts like a teenager half the time who doesn't want to go to work, doesn't want any responsibilities.

Gee, from your posts you make it sound like both of you hate each other. Where is the "funny and spontaneous" stuff?

[divine1966]

You are both passive aggressive with each other. Not telling each other what bothers you but being mean to each other in a subtle way. Honestly it sounds like a terrible marriage.