[hvert]

One of my neighbors is an older woman who was widowed two years ago. She is in her mid-70s but still works. She and her husband were very kind to us. We exchanged gifts at Christmas up until about 3 years ago.

I have continued to give gifts, but I am not sure I should. I've continued because her birthday is Christmas Day. She has no family in the area and two of her closest friends have passed away in the past few years.

But if she's not reciprocating in any way, doesn't that mean I should stop?

[Little Lulu]

I don't know what the etiquette books would say but if you enjoy giving her a gift and it doesn't seem to be a burden to her i.e. she seems embarrassed about not getting you something, then I think it is fine, nice actually.

I used to live in a neighborhood that had a quite a few widows. I make jewelry and I used to give each of them something I had made along with a Christmas card. Most of them seemed to really appreciate it :-)

Generosity is one of the main themes of Christmas. Good for you!

[Crazy Hitch]

I think it's a nice gesture to continue giving.

When you give from the heart you should expect nothing in return, gift wise that is.

[TishaBuv]

You guys are all so nice! If you want to give her a gift, give her a gift. There's no should/shouldn't in etiquette rules.

[Bill3]

I think it is a lovely gesture and in what you said I see no reason to stop.

[LookingforCalm]

I agree with the others. You give gifts because you want to; not because you expect anything back. And with her being elderly, widowed, and friends passing away I bet she loves that you think of her.

I say keep going. Acts of kindness are great, especially because you do them because you want to.

[leejosepho]

Originally Posted by Little Lulu

if you enjoy giving her a gift and it doesn't seem to be a burden to her i.e. she seems embarrassed about not getting you something, then I think it is fine, nice actually.

Yes, agreed.

"Pure and genuine religion in the sight of God the Father means caring for orphans and widows in their distress and refusing to let the world corrupt you." (James 1:27, NLT)

[hvert]

Thank you everyone!

[MickeyCheeky]

That's so sweet of you I don't think you're doing anything bad..

[lizardlady]

I agree with the others. If it brings you pleasure continue to give her gifts.