[Karlam1991]

Ok so I need a nice and very very clear ways to tell someone that I only want friendship and nothing more.
We met at church and we talk and he just got out of a marriage and he's not
Exactly my type he acts extremely shy. So he did tell me he wants to be friends but we talk a lot all the time and I have a feeling he might like me.
I would love for us to become great friends and nothing more. How can I tell him that
Without sounding rude and for him to take it seriously. Any advice is appreciated

[Bill3]

I am not so far seeing why you need to say anything to him right now. Does he ask you out on a date? Has he talked about having a romantic relationship with you?

Without making it personal maybe chat generally about how you enjoy varied friendships in your life but are not looking for a relationship.

[MickeyCheeky]

Idk.. you're making an assumption. Maybe he doesn't actually want a relationship, if you talk about it with it I don't know how would he react.. can't you wait for some more proof for that before doing anything?

I agree with Bill3 and MickeyCheeky. Wait until he does something that shows he's definitely interested in more than friendship. Until then, you're just making assumptions that may not be true. Who knows? He may be looking for friendship, just like you are.

[Karlam1991]

Ok, I really hope you guys are right. I hate for things to get awkward and then you have to stay away from that person.

[scorpiosis37]

I would insert something into the conversation (not about him; just a general statement) about how you're not looking to date anyone. Or, if that's not true, you could say something about how your type is X (describe the opposite of him) and say how you rarely meet any guys you're interested in, and are happy just having guy friends for now. That way you put it on his radar that you're not interested in him, without actually having to confront him.

[TishaBuv]

What do you mean about wanting to become great friends? Does that mean doing things together outside of church?

[Crazy Hitch]

Yup I think you need to make it quite clear that you're not looking for a committed relationship at this stage of your life.

[divine1966]

I am confused. You said he told you that he wants to be friends. Why do you think you need to say the same thing to him?

[s4ndm4n2006]

I would take his statement as wanting to be friends and not assume that he's thinking something more than he has actually said. Thing is, if he wants more from you and hasn't said so that's on him. If you can't take people at their word are they really a friend anyway?

I don't think anything needs to be said, and you said something about it being awkward, well saying something when it's based on your assumption and not facts and you're wrong, it will definitely become awkward then.

Are you sure you're not hoping he's interested yourself? you claim that you only want to be friends then guess that he wants something more than he's stated he does. Something to ask yourself, are you projecting possibly?