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Dec 07, 2016, 08:04 AM
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I have this friend, we have lots of mutual friends but have just recently become friends ourselves. She is a lovely girl and we click and get on so well, but my gut just keeps saying no. I've never experienced this before. It's just a strong gut feeling that tells me not to be friends with her. Which is odd for me because I don't have a huge amount of friends and am usually very grateful when I make a new one. She doesn't seem to have great boundaries which is something I'm working on myself and seems a little needy, again, something I'm trying to work on within myself. So maybe that's what's telling me to stay away.
Anyone else ever experienced this gut feeling? |
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Dec 07, 2016, 10:47 AM
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I cannot go with the idea that some people might say just "go with your gut" implying that the gut feeling is always right but I will say this, your gut feeling is telling you that there is something that does not feel right with her. it's an inner feeling that something is or isn't right.
You have to make a choice to either ignore the reasons for this gut feeling or you have to pay attention and deal with them. In your case you have to make a decision probably based on what you mentioned about boundaries. You have to decide whether you think this issue with boundaries is one that should prevent you from being friends with her or not. Thing is it doesn't necessarily mean things will go badly, but they are warning signs. our gut, our intuition senses things that are not entirely on the conscious level but it cannot see the future. YOU have to choose based on this feeling. If you choose to go forward just remain aware of your intuition and be wary. |
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Dec 07, 2016, 01:47 PM
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When I've had a gut feel that things are off to such a degree ... I've unfortunately usually been right. I've learned to listen to that inner voice if it's trying really hard to tell me something.
Having said that I don't know you personally and I don't know your degree of paranoia / recurring thoughts etc in past situations. So I'm not sure what's driving this for you or what's caused this and hence can't comment on how best you move forward. |
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Dec 07, 2016, 05:56 PM
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I think it may depend on whether this is something that can be discussed with this person, as a friend, so that you can openly work through issues as/if they come up....
You could talk about what you are working on and judge the response/reaction... ....or let it go.
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