[NewCommer]

Good evening, i'll try to get straight to the point this time.

So, i am (Or was) friends with this girl, let's call her Susan. We've been getting to know each other since a year.

Since then, we started to talk a lot and we were starting to become really comfortable towards each other. For her, loyalty is really important and she says she rarely lets someone in. The strange part is that she never tells me a reason to, but i respect her beliefs.

So, in the meantime, i started to develop some feelings for her, and, even when i talked about this things with her, she never said how did she fell nor rejected me in some sort of way.

BUT she told me she started to see a guy (Which was odd for me because she said she rarely let someone in). So, i was ok that Susan saw other people, but as she described him to me, it was a total jackass, that guy stole this lady's first kiss. I was a little mad, but i tried to hide it the best way possible (He seems to be some sort of player).

Even she felt bad for that, but she thought about it so much, and the fact that i told her that it shouldn't be any problem didn't help.
So, as she was processing it, we didn't knew about each other for a couple of days (WHich in some way, i saw that comming), so i finally asked her, to what she responded that she was still thinking about this dork. I really had my doubts but in the end, i asked her "What am i to you?" to what she responded: "Your my dearest friend that I care for very much and I can tell anything to". Man, it's hard to write this down haha.

So, i told her that i felt like i was gonna be replaced or forgotten, to what she got mad and we started a discussion.

It was a little rough, it lasted a couple of days until we talked about this trash again, and in the end, i told her that i felt jealous and how did i feel. After that, although she accepted my apology, we both knew that there was tension among us, so i said i needed to work over my own apology (To myself over my jealousy) AAND, she said i got melodramatic.

Now i got angry and decided to take some time.

Guys, i feel both heart broken and dissappointed on both of us.

I'd like to know your opinions if may i ask, thanks and good night

[Crazy Hitch]

As terrible as this may sound, perhaps it is better for you, in the long run, that she's indicated now that she doesn't have feelings for you in a romantic way, rather than lead you down a path where she admits to you a few months later that she doesn't feel the same way about you as you do about her.

[Rose76]

You are attracted to this girl and you would like the friendship to become something more. Unfortunately, she is not romantically interested in you. That's probably not going to change.

What she has done is not very nice. She has been using you. You're her security blanket. She's known about you having feelings for her even before you told her. She likes having someone be real interested in her. A nice girl would have put some distance between herself and you to discourage you getting attached in a way that would lead to you getting hurt. Instead, she exploited your being attached to have someone give her bunches of emotional support, while really giving nothing much back.

Move on. She's wasting your time.

[NewCommer]

Originally Posted by Crazy Hitch

As terrible as this may sound, perhaps it is better for you, in the long run, that she's indicated now that she doesn't have feelings for you in a romantic way, rather than lead you down a path where she admits to you a few months later that she doesn't feel the same way about you as you do about her.

I knew in some way we weren't in the same way, but i still wanted her friendship, she was unique in many ways

[NewCommer]

Originally Posted by Rose76

You are attracted to this girl and you would like the friendship to become something more. Unfortunately, she is not romantically interested in you. That's probably not going to change.

What she has done is not very nice. She has been using you. You're her security blanket. She's known about you having feelings for her even before you told her. She likes having someone be real interested in her. A nice girl would have put some distance between herself and you to discourage you getting attached in a way that would lead to you getting hurt. Instead, she exploited your being attached to have someone give her bunches of emotional support, while really giving nothing much back.

Move on. She's wasting your time.

She also gave me bunches of emotional support when i was down or something. We were a good team. And as i said before, i was ok with the fact that she would date other people, but i'm not ok that she see people that only wanna take her to bed

[Rose76]

Originally Posted by NewCommer

She also gave me bunches of emotional support when i was down or something. We were a good team. And as i said before, i was ok with the fact that she would date other people, but i'm not ok that she see people that only wanna take her to bed

You are talking yourself into believing that how you feel is all about protecting her. Get real with yourself. She may be relating to men in a way that is self-destructive, but she has the right to make her own decisions and her own mistakes. It doesn't matter what you are okay with. She is not yours. You have to let go.

She is attracted to "players." That's too bad. You probably would treat her better. But she will do what she will do.

[NewCommer]

Originally Posted by Rose76

You are talking yourself into believing that how you feel is all about protecting her. Get real with yourself. She may be relating to men in a way that is self-destructive, but she has the right to make her own decisions and her own mistakes. It doesn't matter what you are okay with. She is not yours. You have to let go.

She is attracted to "players." That's too bad. You probably would treat her better. But she will do what she will do.

Thanks a lot, i find your words very reasonable.