[LadyShadow]

So, I have a best friend who used to be my boyfriend. We had some problems in the sexual arena, and my bipolar was basically totally out of control when we were together and it caused a lot of problems. I latched on too tight and pushed him away, but he was nice enough to stay my friend where others would have abandoned me.

I have dated others since then on and off but nothing serious, and its about 6 years later.

Anyway, I had a serious reality check today when I had a hard day at my first day at a new job. He basically held my hand over the phone as he talked me through my troubles and worries.

I think I am falling in love with him all over again as I did years ago.

Any advice on how to approach this? I don't want it to get weird.

[TishaBuv]

It depends on the sexual problems. But I can say that turning it back into a relationship can definitely work.

[s4ndm4n2006]

it's been 6 yrs. definitely if you still have or are developing feeligns again for him it's worth considering. Sounds like you broke it off in an amicable way so that's good too.

regardless of the reasons, sexual or otherwise, things can change drastically in 6 years so maybe the same problems will be absent this time around!

if he shares your interest I say go for it but just take it one step at a time and remain aware of the areas that could prove challenging. Go slow, don't jump in all at once and it could be something that works!

No guidance, just wanted to say good luck with this - he is obviously very special to you.

Also great news about your job! Well done.

[LadyShadow]

Thanks everyone. Things have been going well. Just riding things out. Haven't been up front yet, as in making a move still kinda scared. Thanks on the congrats!

[Trippin2.0]

Dont say anything.

Just kiss him, get it out of the way.

There's no such thing as the right time or moment, and if you wait for the right words, he may have found somebody else.

PS. Thats how I started dating my best friend (we confessed mutual feelings years prior in HS, but nothing happened), we eventually kissed, and that was that.

There is a line between infatuation and love. Are you sure it's one and not the other? Wanting to be with someone does not neccessarily mean love.

I sound negative I realize but I do so out of concern. Wanting to jump into something so quickly isn't healthy - especially for relationships.

Evaluate the situation please. Are you confusing feelings of missing this person with affection?