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#1
Dec 27, 2016, 02:24 PM
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my Baby father wants to be with the same woman he cheated on me while i was pregnant and eventually wants to bring our daughter around her . I dont know how to feel about this since I am very hurt about it and I honestly dont like this woman. He never even gave us the chance to be a family and now he we wants to be with this woman and possibly be a family with her and my daughter. Any suggestions or advice on what i should do. Can someone really help me. I feel like im at my breaking point .
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Dec 27, 2016, 03:00 PM
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You know how you feel. Hurt, probably angry, you don't like the woman.
What is the life you want for yourself and your child? Think about this, about you and your daughter. Do what is best for you, and for her. Get the help you need, the support you need. Check in your area for women-child focused support groups/---Do you have family or friends who can help? Do you have a counselor? Someone who is a social worker/has that kind of background might be helpful if you are dependent on this man at all financially. If you are, work on becoming independent. If not, I hope you can let him go.....
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Dec 27, 2016, 03:00 PM
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You know how you feel. Hurt, probably angry, you don't like the woman.
What is the life you want for yourself and your child? Think about this, about you and your daughter. Do what is best for you, and for her. Get the help you need, the support you need. Check in your area for women-child focused support groups/---Do you have family or friends who can help? Do you have a counselor? Someone who is a social worker/has that kind of background might be helpful as they are usually aware of what services are available to you. If you are dependent on this man at all financially work on becoming independent. If not, I hope you can let him go.....
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Dec 30, 2016, 11:21 AM
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thanks so too. I hope to do that as well happy new year
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Dec 30, 2016, 11:47 AM
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I hope he pays child support. Other than that you have no control who he is dating or living with. Please do file for child support if you haven't yet
But I recommend to either stop sex with him or at least use protection. He sleeps with more than one woman and it's dangerous (std). He sounds very trashy and most certainly he isn't the type to have "family" with. File for formal custody agreement and child support but it might be wise to stop sleeping with him |
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Dec 30, 2016, 06:01 PM
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I can relate. I know the feeling of being love or at least emotionally attached to a man that I know intellectually isn't good for me. I get the feeling this is true in your case. This may be very hard for you to do. I'd say let go. He sounds like a loser. Any man who would cheat on a girlfriend or for that matter, a wife who is pregnant I wouldn't trust. To use a rather old fashion term he sounds like a cad. If you can I'd get child support. Try to find a new man. This man is damaged goods including a strong possibility of STDS.
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Dec 30, 2016, 07:47 PM
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He is a total scum, but frankly since he lived with her for years and had sex with you on the side without being a couple , he cheated on her with you, not the other way around. But regardless he is bad news
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Dec 30, 2016, 11:47 PM
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Flags went up for me at the mention of wanting to have your child raised around his girlfriend. I smell a potential for a custody battle. Protect yourself and your child.
I agree with formality with custody agreements and child support. Does your community offer any family services? Places like those, at least around where I live, offer venues to access services to empower and create a certain sense of independence. |
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Jan 02, 2017, 01:17 PM
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File for custody and child support.
Not saying they are or aren't---but if the father and/or girlfriend are doing anything unsafe or illegal, do not let them take your daughter. You are responsible for keeping her safe. |
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Jan 02, 2017, 03:02 PM
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It is unfortunate you found yourself as 'the other woman ' in this scenario. As he already has along established relationship with this woman it would be wise you file for a formal custody agreement nd soon, also file for child support.make sure all discussions about access are also filed through your solicitor.
Serfdom that there is little you can do. It wasn't a secret as to the type of man he was, but it still sucks. I hope you are able to resolve this with minimum heartache for both you and your daughter.
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